OH MY GOD! how can any one of you people be Dead Heads & not marry another dead head? The funniest one I read is the one about the guy who's got his 6 yr. old son singing with him now-I can only hope my 4 yr. old grandson & 2 yr. old granddaughters will so the same soon! & his father grew up with the band.......I was one of the lucky ones-both my ex & current hubby of the past 14 years (although we've known each other for 30yrs) were into the GD..............ok, back to work......enough play for now...............www.walkupwear.com
either you like them or you don't. For years my wife loved to go to shows and dance and check out the vendors in the parking lot, but she never has had much use for any kind of recorded Dead and for some reason cannot stand Bobby. My solution is not to play it much when she's around. The way it has worked out over 18 years is that I like most all music she likes and she likes some of what I listen to.
Ami, I know how you feel. One of my best friends, who I used to play with, is a tremendous jazz musician (way better than me) and he was appalled by the shaky harmonies and less than stellar execution that came along from time to time. We have agreed to disagree. However once he walked in the room while some version of Scarlet Begonias was playing and had to admit he liked it.
This is my favorite thread ever.
It speaks volumes to me that there are many other 'heads in this situation. Good to know you're not alone!
My girl likes the GD. She doesn't love them, she doesn't hate them. We've been to shows together, in fact one of our most memorable moments together was at a Dark Star Orchestra show. But there are of course times when it gets "a little bit much" for her. Which is fine.
I will say though, it is hard for me to understand how the Dead are not universally regarded as a phenomenon! =)
My words exactly: How could Anyone Not LOVE the Dead????? Your comment made me smile, bc you are Right On!!
My husband of 11 years can not stand the Dead. He can't stand live music UNLESS it is so orchestrated and in an accoustically balanced forum. He is a jazz musician and has perfect pitch, can play ANYTHING by ear, and has no use for Jerry forgetting lyrics, people talking through a concert, or the whole "freaky people scene." I knew from the start he wasn't into the Dead- or even rock music- from the get go. He's a jazz man and into groups I had never heard of. Some days it's choral music, then chants, then Miles Davis, then the funk hits and old Tower of Power is blaring. The Yellowjacks, Dave Grisham, Accoustic Alchemy.... it goes on. Talk about opposites attracting. He can sit down with his jazz hollow body guitar and play be the sweetest Sugaree or other tunes, but he can't stand the tapes, concert scene, or the 20+ minute jams. His view is to tease and tickle, anything past 5 minutes of jam is overkill in his eyes. Speaking of Eyes, he does like the Without A Net Eyes w/Wynton Marcelis. Unfortunately for him, I had mail ordered and gotten confirmation for show tix and then Jerry died, so my husband never got to see a show. Luckily, I have a long time DH buddy, known each other since 2nd grade! We go to shows together and his wife is like my guy- not into it. My ex-husband didn't like them either, but in our 10 year marriage he went to over
50+ shows! He liked the lot scene. Now with 2 kids, I have no time to listen during my after work hours, so I play the boyz in my classroom, car, and wherever my laptop goes. Our way of dealing- major compromise-we take turns on long car rides and made our first wedding dance a Van Morrison song instead.
Surely they've come up with a dual charger by now?
This is a great topic, and one that needed to post, if for no other reason than to vent about our spouses/significant others. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why anyone who has had the opportunity to listen to GD would not fall in love with the music. I realize it's an acquired taste, however, there's been many years she could have acquired it. So having our own I-pods is the best thing that could have happened. Although now we jockey to see who can get theirs first on the docking station first. =0)
Fall Out Boy? or Grateful Dead? You pick......
Over 2 years ago, for some strange reason, looking for music that mattered
and just felt organic; The GD came into my life. At first my wife, who is a
HUGE classic rock fan, thought it was a phase and like me NEVER really
likes live music cds. Well, 25 GD cds later, most of them live...she is starting
to find songs that finish and she says, "what was that?" I grin, The DEAD
and she replies, "hey, I liked that."
P.S. We have tickets to the March 22, Ratdog show in Milwaukee...
im so pumped a night with my soulmate and great music!
"Rich man step on my poor head,
When you get up you better butter my bread."
My wife is from Norway and had no clue about the dead before she met me. Over the course of our marriage, I've thrown on a show or two here and again and she always says that she likes it, but she's more of a pink floyd girl. Now that Sirius has the GD channel, I find myself immersed in the world like I haven't been in 15 years or so and I hope she doesn't get burned out! The first real negative sign was when she turned on the stereo and started playing whatever cd was in there - it turned out to be an Aud. from early '68 - and she said she had to turn it off because the sound quality was so bad!! Hard to argue with that I s'pose!
When I got home, she had Simon & Garfunkle playing...
My husband since '96 loves what I like to refer to as "begging music" as in Begging for a piece of A** ! I on the other hand I love Older music that tells a story. I can play a few songs when were together, but forget Fire>Drums>Space..etc . He's gone to a few shows with me, but NO Dylan! We've gotten used to it, although sometimes it seems like a house divided, bc were always listening to music. I can tell when he's upset with me bc he'll play Nightmare Hippie Girl, by Beck! It works itself out though and we'll keep on truckin. Hey, atleast he'll still buy me a Dead CD every now and again. There's always hope