This is my favorite thread ever.
It speaks volumes to me that there are many other 'heads in this situation. Good to know you're not alone!
My girl likes the GD. She doesn't love them, she doesn't hate them. We've been to shows together, in fact one of our most memorable moments together was at a Dark Star Orchestra show. But there are of course times when it gets "a little bit much" for her. Which is fine.
I will say though, it is hard for me to understand how the Dead are not universally regarded as a phenomenon! =)
My words exactly: How could Anyone Not LOVE the Dead????? Your comment made me smile, bc you are Right On!!
My husband of 11 years can not stand the Dead. He can't stand live music UNLESS it is so orchestrated and in an accoustically balanced forum. He is a jazz musician and has perfect pitch, can play ANYTHING by ear, and has no use for Jerry forgetting lyrics, people talking through a concert, or the whole "freaky people scene." I knew from the start he wasn't into the Dead- or even rock music- from the get go. He's a jazz man and into groups I had never heard of. Some days it's choral music, then chants, then Miles Davis, then the funk hits and old Tower of Power is blaring. The Yellowjacks, Dave Grisham, Accoustic Alchemy.... it goes on. Talk about opposites attracting. He can sit down with his jazz hollow body guitar and play be the sweetest Sugaree or other tunes, but he can't stand the tapes, concert scene, or the 20+ minute jams. His view is to tease and tickle, anything past 5 minutes of jam is overkill in his eyes. Speaking of Eyes, he does like the Without A Net Eyes w/Wynton Marcelis. Unfortunately for him, I had mail ordered and gotten confirmation for show tix and then Jerry died, so my husband never got to see a show. Luckily, I have a long time DH buddy, known each other since 2nd grade! We go to shows together and his wife is like my guy- not into it. My ex-husband didn't like them either, but in our 10 year marriage he went to over
50+ shows! He liked the lot scene. Now with 2 kids, I have no time to listen during my after work hours, so I play the boyz in my classroom, car, and wherever my laptop goes. Our way of dealing- major compromise-we take turns on long car rides and made our first wedding dance a Van Morrison song instead.
Surely they've come up with a dual charger by now?
This is a great topic, and one that needed to post, if for no other reason than to vent about our spouses/significant others. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why anyone who has had the opportunity to listen to GD would not fall in love with the music. I realize it's an acquired taste, however, there's been many years she could have acquired it. So having our own I-pods is the best thing that could have happened. Although now we jockey to see who can get theirs first on the docking station first. =0)
Fall Out Boy? or Grateful Dead? You pick......
Over 2 years ago, for some strange reason, looking for music that mattered
and just felt organic; The GD came into my life. At first my wife, who is a
HUGE classic rock fan, thought it was a phase and like me NEVER really
likes live music cds. Well, 25 GD cds later, most of them live...she is starting
to find songs that finish and she says, "what was that?" I grin, The DEAD
and she replies, "hey, I liked that."
P.S. We have tickets to the March 22, Ratdog show in Milwaukee...
im so pumped a night with my soulmate and great music!
"Rich man step on my poor head,
When you get up you better butter my bread."
My wife is from Norway and had no clue about the dead before she met me. Over the course of our marriage, I've thrown on a show or two here and again and she always says that she likes it, but she's more of a pink floyd girl. Now that Sirius has the GD channel, I find myself immersed in the world like I haven't been in 15 years or so and I hope she doesn't get burned out! The first real negative sign was when she turned on the stereo and started playing whatever cd was in there - it turned out to be an Aud. from early '68 - and she said she had to turn it off because the sound quality was so bad!! Hard to argue with that I s'pose!
When I got home, she had Simon & Garfunkle playing...
My husband since '96 loves what I like to refer to as "begging music" as in Begging for a piece of A** ! I on the other hand I love Older music that tells a story. I can play a few songs when were together, but forget Fire>Drums>Space..etc . He's gone to a few shows with me, but NO Dylan! We've gotten used to it, although sometimes it seems like a house divided, bc were always listening to music. I can tell when he's upset with me bc he'll play Nightmare Hippie Girl, by Beck! It works itself out though and we'll keep on truckin. Hey, atleast he'll still buy me a Dead CD every now and again. There's always hope
My adorable wife has little or no interest in the Dead, indeed she has little interest in music at all… she never went through the teenage phase where music was ‘so important’ never had a crush on a pop star, never followed any band, never found an album ‘crucial’, never signed up to the orthodoxy of what is or is not cool. As a result her taste such as it is, is utterly random, with equal interests in individual tracks she happens to like from any genre.
Another consequence of this is that she has not wrecked her hearing (its way too late for me to tell between this MP3 and lossless business) ….I used to take her to a few gigs, but she ends up in pain, stuffing bits of tissue in her ears or waiting outside till its over. When I put the Dead on at what I feel an acceptable volume, she takes the dog in the garden to protect both their ears.
Sounds like a real straight eh?…well you’re so wrong there …she is as free a spirit as anyone….just got there by a different path...that makes her all the more fun to be with.
So how does it work with the Dead…well headphones of course and the work we both do means that we spend a lot of the time (around 1/3) apart, so I have the place to myself often enough to turn it up (the dog automatically goes upstairs when he sees me approach the CD player). When I am away I stack up the laptop and ipod with GD goodies. She treats my GD obsessions with tolerant amusement and has no fear that I will run off with a younger woman because I already did that (with her!). Just the best!
Sounds like the Dead to me. Throw in a little folk, a little rock and roll and you've got The Dead