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    Candy Hill from Philly
    A really beautiful sister in so many ways! I heard she died from an overdose. She was into smack. You would never have known to look at her. I had a really freaky experience once. When I was at a Hare Krishna restaurant in New Zealand two girls came in with backpacks and were in line next to me. One with intense blue eyes. They had American accents so I said "hi"! We started to chat. The one said she was from Philly. I said I had a friend from there who died from an overdose. We locked eyes and both said her name at exactly the same time. Wow.........! I felt the presence of Candy standing in the space that was there where we three stood. Powerful! What are the chances of such a thing being coincidence? It wasn't a coincidence, of course. I think Candy was just trying to connect the energy and to send me a little message of love to give me strength at a trying time in my life when I really needed it and was going through some of the toughest times I've ever had! She was a good family sister and will always be missed. Gotta make it to the promised land...! Are you kind?
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    Another wonderful and sweet brother. He was usually to be found on Telegraph hanging out or in People's Park when it was still relatively hassle-free to do our thing there. He was a really fun cat! I don't know the exact details of his passing so I don't think I should write what I think I remember being told. His ex told me that his parents lived in El Cerrito at that time but I didn't find any listing in the phone directory for that area with that name last time I checked. Any more info on this would be wonderful! He was such a classic head! Shining on forever!!! Are you kind?
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    Junkie Jim from PA
    Jim was a kid who was one of the Haight St crew from the late eighties - early nineties scene. Also a regular tour cat! One of the who's who faces in the crowd. A really sweet guy! Yup, another with a drug habit unfortunately! From what I heard he got thrown into jail in SF and either hung himself or was hung by the guards or inmates. Some smack dealer apparently wanted him offed but I don't know the truth about that. It was all very shady and it would be nice to know if anyone has anymore info on this. Peace! Are you kind?
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    George from Telegraph Ave - late eighties early nineties!
    My good bro' from hanging out on Telegraph Ave from 87-92. He had a bit of a drug problem as certain loved ones did but he was a peaceful wonderful soul! I think it was 1991 when he passed on. There was an incident with a van of family coming down a mountain outside of Santa Cruz. The brakes failed. George had to help the petite and very pregnant girl, Carrie, who was trying to keep the vehicle on the road. He leaned across and guided the vehicle around the curves but it eventually rolled. He saved them from going off the side of the road! He also shielded Carrie from harm but got crushed under the van after going through the window in the process. I still have one of his tye-dyes the others gave me after the accident. I think about him often. He'll always be with us. Are you kind?
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    Man pleads no contest in 2000 rest-stop slayingBy Jon Gambrell, The Associated Press Kristin Ann Laurite, 25, of Scotch Plains, N.J., found dead at the Morrilton rest stop in 2000. The Montanta prisoner accused of killing her pleaded no contest Tuesday in her death. 2007-06-12 16:02:00 LITTLE ROCK — A Montana prisoner pleaded no contest Tuesday to killing a New Jersey woman nearly seven years ago as she was stopped at an Interstate 40 rest stop in central Arkansas on a cross-country trip. Ronald James Ward, who is serving life in prison for another killing, was linked to the slaying of 25-year-old Kristin Laurite through DNA five years after the woman was stabbed repeatedly, sexually assaulted and left to die at the rest stop near Morrilton. Ward, 40, was arrested last year while in prison and returned to Arkansas over the weekend for his Conway County court appearance Tuesday. He initially told the court he would plead guilty. But after talking to a public defender, Ward changed his plea. He acknowledged he was responsible for Laurite’s death, although he claimed he couldn’t remember it because he had been high on “******, moonshine and *******,” Prosecutor Tom Tatum said. AP/Montana Department of Corrections Ronald James Ward pleaded no contest to the 2000 rest-stop slaying of a New Jersey woman. Tatum described Ward as a drifter who moved between West Virginia and Montana. Sentencing is tentatively scheduled for Thursday. The prosecutor said Ward had agreed to a life sentence. Laurite’s mother Lynn DiBenedetto expressed love for her daughter, and relief. “Finally, justice will be served for the brutal murder of my daughter,” DiBenedetto said in an e-mail to reporters. “Although the pain never goes away, I will finally get some peace of mind knowing that this alleged predator will never again be a part of society.” Laurite left her New Jersey home on a trip to Eureka, Calif., planning to take a job at a day-care center along California’s north coast. By Aug. 25, 2000, she made it to Arkansas, stopping her yellow 1972 Volkswagen van at the Morrilton rest stop to splash water on her face and let her dogs play at a nearby pond. The next day, truckers noticed one of Laurite’s dogs running loose. The trucker called the number on the dog’s tag, finding Laurite’s mother. Laurite’s dogs led officers to her body, dragged down toward the pond. The rest stop, where another murder occurred three years earlier, was closed by the state, and Laurite’s family put up a billboard along the well-traveled highway with a picture of the slain young woman. The image remained up for years, with the plea: “Do you know who murdered me?” Tatum said he was “surprised” by the no contest plea. “I figured we would be in for a long trial because the investigation took place over so many years,” Tatum said. “I think it helped the family quite a bit and it certainly helped the state, too.” Morrilton lawyer John Irwin said Ward didn’t understand the judge’s explanation about the consequences of representing himself so the judge appointed Irwin to represent the Montana convict. “His education level is about fourth grade. He is not dumb. He is unlearned,” Irwin said. “The easiest thing to do would be to have a lawyer.” Citing lawyer-client confidentiality, Irwin declined to talk about other aspects of the case. _______________ insert obligatory signature here
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    He was a freind of mine. Many of you will remember Mikel for his stickers, set list hand-outs and newsletters, and some of you will remember Mikel as one of the most kind and gentle souls you ever met. I didn't know him well, but Mikel was the kind of person who was sincerely kind and somehow made you feel special to him the instant that you met him. Mikel became the first person I would look for at a show, and I know I'm sepaking for many of you, because I stood in his own little "hug lines" many times. I will never forget Mikel. He taught me to try to pour as much kindness and compassion as you humanly can on others. He was a friend of mine.
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Farewell IanSex'n'drugs'n rock'n'roll Hit me with your rythm stick A physically challenged maniac for the 80s. RIP Ian
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Good to be reminded of the much missed Ian Dury, even though he died nearly 10 years ago! He was a truly original artist and performer and a brilliant lyricist. His last tour, when he was terminally ill, was brave, moving and at the same time a great celebration.
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Well, it was the ten year anniversary of his death anyway. I think the news story I heard had to do with some kind of award being made to physically challenged musicians or artists that had his name attached to it.
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Yes Thank ya Thank ya very much !! Elvis has left the building .
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shares the same birthday as Elvis, if my source is correct. ********************************** By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean. Mark Twain
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“Salinger had remarked that he was in this world but not of it,” from family statement. How many times have I felt like that and that is why his work meant so much to me. I read Catcher In The Rye in one day when I was in my mid teens. Even though he was an east coast preppie and I was a midwest farm kid, there was something in his writing and in Holden that I could relate to and connect with, Alienation!. This book was a rite of passage. Thank J.D. Salinger. I knew I was not the only alienated freak, there were lots of us through the decades. But I did move on and connect with many things, just not much of mainstream society. Alienation, finding oneself, growth and sharing. Salinger described what so many go through in those troubled teen age years. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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Thank you J.D. for Holden Caulfield.I do not know if he would have been a Deadhead as he was not much of a joiner.I do know I often relate to Holden's angst,his signature headgear and his disdain for "swell" society....El T.
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my students finished catcher just a few weeks ago- and i have seen a few of them this morning in the hallways wearing their red hunting hats -- rest in peace, salinger- caroline
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We were going to read this in English class in 8th grade (I think, circa 1968 or 69), until the Vice Principal (the discipline-enforcer...the "cut your hair!" guy, and so on) decided that reading it would pollute the precious bodily fluids and corrupt the brains of his innocent little charges (that'd be us, the students). Having not read the book himself -- he admitted it to us -- he based his decision on what he "knew" and had been told about the subject matter and racy content. How many times have you heard that story? Having had the book banned out from under us, most of us (the ones that liked to read, that is) bought copies on our own, and sampled the forbidden fruit just to spite the jerk. And a few of us read it again, and again, and again. As an added bonus, we'd had our first group experience in defying authority...valuable lessons all the way around, as it turned out. So we learned: repression > rebellion. Thanks, Mr whatever-your-name-was! And especial thanks, JD Salinger. I still have that very dog-eared paperback in my library, sitting next to a hardcover copy I bought years later. RIP, JD...
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Historian and author of many books including the must read A People's History of the United States as well as being a civil rights and anti-war activist. People's History tells the history of Native Americans, immigrants, labor and our wide ethinic diverse population that isn't in the standard history textbook. He lived to tell truths. An inspiration. Thank you Howard Zinn. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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because history is like a chewing gum,once you stepped on it than it sticks to ones brain until you can scratch it of with the help of people like this man,who are tryin to tell the way it REALLY was.Let us be grateful for the few people who give real information to the world!!!!!
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Ahhhh,the different ways we do the different things we do....J.D.Salinger gave us Holden Caulfield,handed us the bat and left the game.Howard Zinn picked up the bat and just kept swinging....Thank you Howard Zinn.
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retreat/advance, solitude/activism, disengagement/participation, these two lives showing the Yin/Yang of human existence If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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Pigpen passed away at age 27, 37 years ago. Turn on your lovelight in his memory, will ya?Thanks, DL, for the reminder...
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"LEAVE IT ON" as Pigpen used to say...........
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I know most people don't equate the love for a pet to be the same as a human. However I can personally say that to some, our "Fur Kids" are like children to us. We loved them just as much as any one would a person who was special in their life.My best friend, companion and the absolute best dog ever "Ziggy" pasted away February 18th and it's been hard getting over him. It was his time and I'm sure he's in a much better place now but he's missed very much.
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on the contrary, some pets i have met were more human then their humans. it's my belief that here we can share mourning.......and loss. God bless Ziggy, whatever beach, or field, or park he is now chasing rabbits in.
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Yes indeed,I like to think of the Fourth Dimension as a place where my beloved ol' Spooky can lie around the campfire listenin' to the likes of Pigpen swappin' stories with the other members of this family who have made the transition....I am sure Ziggy will find the gathering.Meanwhile in the here and now,Hearts to you FoolfortheDead....
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However in this day and age it's easy to offend someone and I didn't want to do that. I appreciate the kind remarks and understanding. Some of my close friends were not as compassionate. I knew Dead heads were a better breed of folks.Thank You Again
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Peter graduated from the University of Nebraska-Lincoln with a Bachelor of Fine Arts Degree. Photography was his passion. He won many awards including the Nikon International and a number of his photographs have been published, including one on the cover of Life Magazine. Peter was born and raised in Lincoln, Nebraska. Peter and Missy recently celebrated their twenty-sixth wedding anniversary. Peter was a family man who loved his wife and kids with all his might. When Jerry Garcia died years ago, there was a spontaneous celebration at a park in Lincoln. Peter arrived with an unending supply of 5 x 7 copies of a photo he shot of Garcia from a St. Louis Grateful Dead show a couple years earlier. Garcia was bathed in a blue light and Peter smiled as he handed these out to all those in gathered in remembrance. "There's nothing you can hold, for very long...... Stella Blue". Peter was a great talent, a kind man, a good father, and had a smile for all he knew and those he hadn't met yet. "I know you rider, gonna miss me when I'm gone." The Truth is realized in an instant, the act is practiced step by step.
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A tireless speaker and author of a crucial history of our country. Howard Zinn is a hero for our time, of which there are few left.
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Peter sounds like a very fine man. Sorry for the loss, may his spirit live on in those whose lives he touched. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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I have no idea what Lincoln Nebraska is like, but I am fairly sure it is not the centre of the universe or Deadheaddom. I can see that they played there once (2/26/73). The thought of a spontaneous gathering there when Jerry died is a heartwarming testament to the impact the man had on so many lives. I am trying to imagine it and Peter handing out those photos...great image
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Keith was my good friend whom i worked with for the last 4 years. I'm really gonna miss him. Going to calling hours on Friday. I haven't been to a funeral in 20 years. It really makes you stop and think about how precious life really is... KEITH... You will be missed, but never forgotton my friend.. Rest In Peace Keith I love you brother, Moye
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WAY too young. So sorry.
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One of those guys whose music launched a thousand bands...59, too young. Won't you tell your dad "Get off my back" Tell him what we said 'bout "Paint It Black" Rock 'n Roll is here to stay Come inside now, it's okay
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I missed the Big Star craze, but "gimme a ticket for an aeroplane" was in my DNA before the Dead were. Safe travels Alex Chilton.
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legendary photographer and even more legendary character about whom we all have many tales, passed away last night.
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Bay Area legendary character. You might well ask why I am posting the former owner of the Warriors here. Well, it's a long story, but... Back in the early '90s, when AOL was just a baby, I frequented the dogs area as well as the GD area, and one day a guy posted that he was in the Berkeley area and looking for a live-in caretaker for his dog when he went on frequent biz trips. I sent him an email recommending my dogsitter as a likely resource. He thanked me and said oh by the way, if I ever wanted tix to a Warriors game I should call his secretary Shirley, and she'd set me up. It was at that point that I put two and two together and realized I was dealing with Franklin Mieuli His Bad Self, but aside from getting a big kick out of it I thought no more of the matter, because I did not care about Warriors games... Cut to a few weeks later. I pass my boss's office. My boss and the head sales guy are bemoaning the fact that he has foolishly given his season tickets to his daughter and her friends, and now the game is sold out and he is shut out and is going to be stuck in the parking lot listening to the game on the radio waiting to give the teens a ride home. Excuse me, I say innocently. I couldn't help but overhear. Perhaps I can do something. Whereupon I gave them the short explanation and went and called Shirley, who quickly set me up. I made my way back to the boss's office, where he and the sales guy were still stunned, as nothing in my previous life had suggested I would be a source of tix to a sold-out Warriors game. Okay, here's where to pick up the tickets, I said. Only thing is, I think I'd better come along and use one of the tickets because I have a feeling someone might come looking for me. No sooner were the words out of my mouth than the receptionist is at the door looking slightly worried and saying, Mary, someone calling himself Franklin the Dog Lover is on the phone and he needs to talk to you right now! Boss is looking even more stunned. So I pick up the phone. "Shirley says you've got tickets for the game tomorrow but she doesn't think you're using them yourself!" a voice hollers. Thanking God for having anticipated this eventuality, I said truthfully oh no no, I'm coming and it would be great to see you! So Franklin goes away mollified, my cred at the office is through the roof, and in due course off we go to the game. Where we have quite nice seats, in the low 100s for those who remember the Coliseum. And we're just settling in and commenting on our good fortune when a woman in a Warriors office uniform comes up and asks if we're Shirley's party. And the next thing you know, we are in the courtside seats next to Franklin, getting the lowdown on all the players even as they come crashing into us. It was, shall we say, an unforgettable experience. EVEN ASIDE FROM THE FACT that unbeknownst to me, this was the very night at which the Rex Foundation was to present the check for the Lithuanian basketball team's uniforms to Sarunas Marciulionis, who was on the Warriors at the time. So not only did I get to catch a lovely halftime ceremony, I found myself in the VIP lounge at halftime with several band members and a slew of my Deadhead pals. So thanks always to Franklin the Dog Lover, and safe travels to him.
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Any info about our good friend Dread Fred would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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What a loss of a brilliant actor, director, artist, and photographer. R.I.P. Dennis. Find this little clip quite á propos. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4TAixFYnDh4 ********************************** By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean. Mark Twain
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memorial day weekend. today my local newspaper listed the names of all who we have lost in iraq and afghanistan to date.............i went to a memorial day service yesterday and couldn't stop crying for an hour after....it has to stop....we must bring the others home before it's too late for them, too
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what you said.
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Thanking Johnman and Marye for reMINDING me to remember the 'heavy stuff' too....I just drifted back into Bellingham from Mountainaire....So today I remember those who have put themselves in harms way to serve our country....I pray now that they are all home soon to enjoy the lives they so greatly deserve,in peace and listening and grooving to the music of their choice....
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Thanks for the kind invitation but the 'Greyhound' only makes the Tacoma scene for about six and a half mins.,You were in my thoughts Johnman....
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can be inconvenient and oh, so, boring, but better that nuffin'!!
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Portland meadows . OR 15 years ago on Memorial day
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Portland Meadows. OR. 15 years ago on memorial day he died. If you knew him or know anyone that does or know what happened. Please contact me ... Thanks
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Hey everyone...My friend John Grantham passed away yesterday. He was 34 years old, and he had a son. I played football in high school with John, and we even lived on the same dirt road. I'm still waiting for details concerning what happened, but really it doesn't matter. He was one of my oldest friends, and now he's gone. Please send out good vibes to his family, and for me you can hoist one, burn one, or otherwise in John's memory. Thanks everyone. MacLain
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I guess this isn't the most timely post, but it's one of those sad days and I happened to fall into this group so it kinda seemed appropriate. Just over a year ago my father went over to my sister's house to do some work on the place while she was gone. As it so happened, Dad walked in on a burglar who opted to shoot Dad, take his wallet, and leave him to bleed to death in the hallway. In that instant, everything changed and my world will never be the same. I have for years pleaded with my wife for us to move out of Indiana and to let me go back to school to be a teacher/professor or something (anything to get out of IT). Now, I have to stay here. I can't leave Mom alone, she cannot take care of herself and with Dad gone, she doesn't have anyone else. So, I now swing between being so pissed about the whole situation, and guilt at being so selfish. All this is nothing compared to that last hour or 2 that Dad lay there. Anyway, today is definitely a "sad day" so I thought I'd throw my sorry story up here. -Dave
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so sorry for all your family's been through.