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    Candy Hill from Philly
    A really beautiful sister in so many ways! I heard she died from an overdose. She was into smack. You would never have known to look at her. I had a really freaky experience once. When I was at a Hare Krishna restaurant in New Zealand two girls came in with backpacks and were in line next to me. One with intense blue eyes. They had American accents so I said "hi"! We started to chat. The one said she was from Philly. I said I had a friend from there who died from an overdose. We locked eyes and both said her name at exactly the same time. Wow.........! I felt the presence of Candy standing in the space that was there where we three stood. Powerful! What are the chances of such a thing being coincidence? It wasn't a coincidence, of course. I think Candy was just trying to connect the energy and to send me a little message of love to give me strength at a trying time in my life when I really needed it and was going through some of the toughest times I've ever had! She was a good family sister and will always be missed. Gotta make it to the promised land...! Are you kind?
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    CJ - Joe Emert
    Another wonderful and sweet brother. He was usually to be found on Telegraph hanging out or in People's Park when it was still relatively hassle-free to do our thing there. He was a really fun cat! I don't know the exact details of his passing so I don't think I should write what I think I remember being told. His ex told me that his parents lived in El Cerrito at that time but I didn't find any listing in the phone directory for that area with that name last time I checked. Any more info on this would be wonderful! He was such a classic head! Shining on forever!!! Are you kind?
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    Junkie Jim from PA
    Jim was a kid who was one of the Haight St crew from the late eighties - early nineties scene. Also a regular tour cat! One of the who's who faces in the crowd. A really sweet guy! Yup, another with a drug habit unfortunately! From what I heard he got thrown into jail in SF and either hung himself or was hung by the guards or inmates. Some smack dealer apparently wanted him offed but I don't know the truth about that. It was all very shady and it would be nice to know if anyone has anymore info on this. Peace! Are you kind?
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    George from Telegraph Ave - late eighties early nineties!
    My good bro' from hanging out on Telegraph Ave from 87-92. He had a bit of a drug problem as certain loved ones did but he was a peaceful wonderful soul! I think it was 1991 when he passed on. There was an incident with a van of family coming down a mountain outside of Santa Cruz. The brakes failed. George had to help the petite and very pregnant girl, Carrie, who was trying to keep the vehicle on the road. He leaned across and guided the vehicle around the curves but it eventually rolled. He saved them from going off the side of the road! He also shielded Carrie from harm but got crushed under the van after going through the window in the process. I still have one of his tye-dyes the others gave me after the accident. I think about him often. He'll always be with us. Are you kind?
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    Man pleads no contest in 2000 rest-stop slayingBy Jon Gambrell, The Associated Press Kristin Ann Laurite, 25, of Scotch Plains, N.J., found dead at the Morrilton rest stop in 2000. The Montanta prisoner accused of killing her pleaded no contest Tuesday in her death. 2007-06-12 16:02:00 LITTLE ROCK — A Montana prisoner pleaded no contest Tuesday to killing a New Jersey woman nearly seven years ago as she was stopped at an Interstate 40 rest stop in central Arkansas on a cross-country trip. Ronald James Ward, who is serving life in prison for another killing, was linked to the slaying of 25-year-old Kristin Laurite through DNA five years after the woman was stabbed repeatedly, sexually assaulted and left to die at the rest stop near Morrilton. Ward, 40, was arrested last year while in prison and returned to Arkansas over the weekend for his Conway County court appearance Tuesday. He initially told the court he would plead guilty. But after talking to a public defender, Ward changed his plea. He acknowledged he was responsible for Laurite’s death, although he claimed he couldn’t remember it because he had been high on “******, moonshine and *******,” Prosecutor Tom Tatum said. AP/Montana Department of Corrections Ronald James Ward pleaded no contest to the 2000 rest-stop slaying of a New Jersey woman. Tatum described Ward as a drifter who moved between West Virginia and Montana. Sentencing is tentatively scheduled for Thursday. The prosecutor said Ward had agreed to a life sentence. Laurite’s mother Lynn DiBenedetto expressed love for her daughter, and relief. “Finally, justice will be served for the brutal murder of my daughter,” DiBenedetto said in an e-mail to reporters. “Although the pain never goes away, I will finally get some peace of mind knowing that this alleged predator will never again be a part of society.” Laurite left her New Jersey home on a trip to Eureka, Calif., planning to take a job at a day-care center along California’s north coast. By Aug. 25, 2000, she made it to Arkansas, stopping her yellow 1972 Volkswagen van at the Morrilton rest stop to splash water on her face and let her dogs play at a nearby pond. The next day, truckers noticed one of Laurite’s dogs running loose. The trucker called the number on the dog’s tag, finding Laurite’s mother. Laurite’s dogs led officers to her body, dragged down toward the pond. The rest stop, where another murder occurred three years earlier, was closed by the state, and Laurite’s family put up a billboard along the well-traveled highway with a picture of the slain young woman. The image remained up for years, with the plea: “Do you know who murdered me?” Tatum said he was “surprised” by the no contest plea. “I figured we would be in for a long trial because the investigation took place over so many years,” Tatum said. “I think it helped the family quite a bit and it certainly helped the state, too.” Morrilton lawyer John Irwin said Ward didn’t understand the judge’s explanation about the consequences of representing himself so the judge appointed Irwin to represent the Montana convict. “His education level is about fourth grade. He is not dumb. He is unlearned,” Irwin said. “The easiest thing to do would be to have a lawyer.” Citing lawyer-client confidentiality, Irwin declined to talk about other aspects of the case. _______________ insert obligatory signature here
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    Mikel
    He was a freind of mine. Many of you will remember Mikel for his stickers, set list hand-outs and newsletters, and some of you will remember Mikel as one of the most kind and gentle souls you ever met. I didn't know him well, but Mikel was the kind of person who was sincerely kind and somehow made you feel special to him the instant that you met him. Mikel became the first person I would look for at a show, and I know I'm sepaking for many of you, because I stood in his own little "hug lines" many times. I will never forget Mikel. He taught me to try to pour as much kindness and compassion as you humanly can on others. He was a friend of mine.
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Another true musical and artistic visionary gone. RIP Capt. Beefheart.
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Gerry Rafferty was only 63. I still hear Baker Street fairly often on the FM radio. Reminds me of a girl named Jill I once ran with, briefly, from Evergreen to Doylestown then down to Boulder.
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using a place where we remember those we miss, to further your greed. I can't believe you'd put an ad in here...what gall.
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the spammer is a human being. Probably not.
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some lower lifeform, I'm certain
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automated opportunistic crapola...
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I had thought since the same spammer posted different messages on different forums that it was an individual, but I'm don't know much about this automated stuff, other than I lost my job due to automation.
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I can't form grammatically correct sentences, either..
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Any body that was a teen in the 70's can remember Don Kirshner's Rock Concert on TV. How many parties revolved around that when the parents weren't home?
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Very sorry your dad and cat passed on...octopus hugs and healing rays for a decade
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and midnite special but don had the coolest bands. he recorded a time in history. bummed to be too young and home on a weekend but the best thing about staying up :)
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Who could forget the television show, "Don Kirshner’s Rock Concert" and the barriers it broke not only in the television market but also in the nation’s cultural mindset of music on TV by shedding the over-rehearsed and lip synced production most Americans had become used to since the ‘50s? Kirshner also produced the hit TV series "The Monkeys" and contributed the bulk of the song writing for that show. He was inducted into the Song Writers Hall of Fame in 2007. R.I.P. Don Kirshner...
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I appreciate that. Especially reading it tonight cuz have been almost washed under by a sunami if grief that came outta nowhere this evening.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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and it will....for awhile...you're strong, you'll get through it, pal...
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Grandmother to Tigerlilly's kids.......RIP Oma
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Fitness guru...many of us saw his exercise program, one of the first, on the TV as we were growing up. 96 years of age, and was still in better shape than alot of 30 year olds
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we need all the strength we can get right bout now. all been a bit too much for my kids to swallow -4 losses in 2 months.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Gary Moore!Only 58-how sad!!!!!! ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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So sorry about your loses recently TigerLilly, as if life isn't hard enough by its own merits. I can't possibly understand how you feel with all you've been through but my prayers are with you always (even when I'm not around here).
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My older brother Bill died in 1999 from Lukemia at the age of 56. Thanks to Bill he would "arrainged" for me to babysit.so I could go and see the greatful dead. My dad was a strick trip{Yes I loved him}but he expected us to be in the house by 9:30 at the age of 17.My brother had three adorable kids, he would call my dad and tell him.that he and his wife was going out and they needed me to babysit. I woudl then go to the concert and then go home the next morning when Bill picked me up at the bus station in Atlantic City then drive me home. Rest in peace Bill. I miss you still.
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is a great brother. So sorry for your loss.
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Bill did not care for the greatful dead but he knew that Dad was unrelistic and he went thruit and he got kicked out of the house when he was 16. So he helped my sister and I get out of the house.
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Bill did not care for the greatful dead but he knew that Dad was unrelistic and he went thruit and he got kicked out of the house when he was 16. So he helped my sister and I get out of the house.
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I just found out our old friend Kevin Dougherty passed away back in 2009 In Eugene... We had many colorful experiences together. Fun in SF! Great shows. Had families. Did our things. My wife's & my last show was at Autzen, hanging with Kevin & Jane & our kids. I am finding that getting old is hard because of the people that you lose... I love you Bro...
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Rest in peace Bear, you changed my life like so many others. I will always remember that purple haze, orange sunshine, yellow sunshine and blue cheer that you turned the world onto, you were the greatest. Without you, there would be no grateful dead.
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Long live the legacy and the work of Bear! May his memory cause no man or woman harm! he faster we go the rounder we get!
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Sad way to go. Thanks for everything.
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The Orange Juice may be safer, but we are saddened by your passing. Thanks for helping to create the SF atmosphere and for laying the ground work on the sound system.
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A sad day, just does not seem to be the way Bear should have gone. A survivor, in many ways ahead of his times, both technologically and perhaps psychologically. While his pharmacological roles were certainly important, there was far more to the man. R.I.P.
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It is a very sad day. His vision of sound broke through barriers decades before anyone on the planet. We will miss you Bear, but your molecules will rain down on us forever. And for that we will all be better.
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Enormous gentle vibes to Bear's family...came through many fights. Thank-you/om gate
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another sad passing that came too soon! thank you Bear for the sights n'sounds.PEACE
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just got a SYF tatt last week then bear passed think I'm gonna add another tear.
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Thanks for being, Bear. I'll meet you at the jubilee.
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My allowabull folklore about Bear ("summary") "Do you really want to tell me I can *()&$^&*?" "Do Bears Shit in the Forest??" (the biggest Southpark Smile possible on this pusser) keep your character, enjoy living, share your fortune, OXOX Merple Reddin
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thanks for all the help and inspiration you gave me back in the 60's..
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but means the world to me personally. May 1st my dad's friends are having a memorial picnic, in his honor. I am going, but I am not sure how well I can pull it off without having an emotional meltdown. BUT I love it that his friends have decided to carry on his annual picnic, in his memory. ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Furthur did a great tribute to Bear at one of their shows. Played a rockin' Alice D. Millionare, but the whole show was tribute. And it all was great. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Ain't nobody messin' with you but you AND WE ALL LOVE YOU
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Hello there, I am searching for my birthfather with little to go on.. I was conceived in Eugene oregon in the summer of 79. My father went by the name winddancer and traveled up and down the west coast. He met my mother Devorah and they were only together for a short while. I do not have a birthname, except perhaps he also went by the name of Jonathan? He frequented Santa cruz,ca, not sure where he is origionally from.. Thought i would post here. The circle back then was a bit tighter, not sure what it is like now.. Any leads, any info of this invisible man in my life will be gratefully appreciated! Also, if you have any recommendations on where I can search or where the appropriate place to post is, that is also very helpful:)Aloha, Sarah
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I'll ask my husband. She went to Santa Cruz to see his frail mother with and lung problems + and a paralyzed arm. They where both huge Heads and my husband knows almost evrey 'Head in Santa Cruz. Will Have to ask him. I hope you find him! Keep on your search. Don't stop sister, I know you'll find him! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Ain't nobody messin' with you but you AND WE ALL LOVE YOU
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We just lost a truly great poet, musician, performer, activist and human being. And especially sad as it was just when he was getting his life back together again. He is called the godfather of rap, but he never liked that title and it completely misses the point about what made him great. His live shows were celebrations, strong strong messages, razor wit and funky jazz tunes. Rest in Peace Gil Scott-Heron The revolution will not be televised! http://vimeo.com/24398430 http://www.guardian.co.uk/music/2011/may/28/gil-scott-heron-obituary 'You alone consider mercy after it seems like all you get is pain It seem to me that you have found the courage that others could not find You alone have the wisdom to take this world and make it what it need to be, want to be, will be, someday you'll see The day, the day you understand That there ain't no such thing as a superman'
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Bluesman and a founding member of the original Steve Miller Band. He was the creator of Pacific Northwest Blues in the Schools. Passed after a long battle with cancer May 16th, 66 years of age. memorial show will be held at Blues Vespers Sunday, June 5th at Immanuel Presbyterian Church in Tacoma, Washington. Jerry Miller (Moby Grape), Jay Mabin and other local blues musicians to play. Blues Vespers is always free but donations are always accepted and will be donated to Blues in the Schools.
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Sad news Johnman. It was always a great pleasure to hear the Steve Miller Blues Band in good old SF. Nice to hear Jerry Miller will be at the memorial. My heart goes out to his family and the Pacific Northwest. : (
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born and raised Tacoman, but I heard he moved to Pacific coupla years ago. I think it was two years ago word was he lost everything in a flood in Pacific, something to do with the Civil Engineers opening, or not opening a levee or something during a bad storm. I know that there was a benefit for him at The Swiss, in downtown T-town...
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thanks for all the great "sax" music "Big Man", and rocking us. We'll miss you.
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Really bummed. Glad I seen Bruce and the E Street band when I did. It won't be the same now. I'm gonna crank Rosalita and have a beer. :( :( :(