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    Candy Hill from Philly
    A really beautiful sister in so many ways! I heard she died from an overdose. She was into smack. You would never have known to look at her. I had a really freaky experience once. When I was at a Hare Krishna restaurant in New Zealand two girls came in with backpacks and were in line next to me. One with intense blue eyes. They had American accents so I said "hi"! We started to chat. The one said she was from Philly. I said I had a friend from there who died from an overdose. We locked eyes and both said her name at exactly the same time. Wow.........! I felt the presence of Candy standing in the space that was there where we three stood. Powerful! What are the chances of such a thing being coincidence? It wasn't a coincidence, of course. I think Candy was just trying to connect the energy and to send me a little message of love to give me strength at a trying time in my life when I really needed it and was going through some of the toughest times I've ever had! She was a good family sister and will always be missed. Gotta make it to the promised land...! Are you kind?
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    CJ - Joe Emert
    Another wonderful and sweet brother. He was usually to be found on Telegraph hanging out or in People's Park when it was still relatively hassle-free to do our thing there. He was a really fun cat! I don't know the exact details of his passing so I don't think I should write what I think I remember being told. His ex told me that his parents lived in El Cerrito at that time but I didn't find any listing in the phone directory for that area with that name last time I checked. Any more info on this would be wonderful! He was such a classic head! Shining on forever!!! Are you kind?
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    Junkie Jim from PA
    Jim was a kid who was one of the Haight St crew from the late eighties - early nineties scene. Also a regular tour cat! One of the who's who faces in the crowd. A really sweet guy! Yup, another with a drug habit unfortunately! From what I heard he got thrown into jail in SF and either hung himself or was hung by the guards or inmates. Some smack dealer apparently wanted him offed but I don't know the truth about that. It was all very shady and it would be nice to know if anyone has anymore info on this. Peace! Are you kind?
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    George from Telegraph Ave - late eighties early nineties!
    My good bro' from hanging out on Telegraph Ave from 87-92. He had a bit of a drug problem as certain loved ones did but he was a peaceful wonderful soul! I think it was 1991 when he passed on. There was an incident with a van of family coming down a mountain outside of Santa Cruz. The brakes failed. George had to help the petite and very pregnant girl, Carrie, who was trying to keep the vehicle on the road. He leaned across and guided the vehicle around the curves but it eventually rolled. He saved them from going off the side of the road! He also shielded Carrie from harm but got crushed under the van after going through the window in the process. I still have one of his tye-dyes the others gave me after the accident. I think about him often. He'll always be with us. Are you kind?
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    Man pleads no contest in 2000 rest-stop slayingBy Jon Gambrell, The Associated Press Kristin Ann Laurite, 25, of Scotch Plains, N.J., found dead at the Morrilton rest stop in 2000. The Montanta prisoner accused of killing her pleaded no contest Tuesday in her death. 2007-06-12 16:02:00 LITTLE ROCK — A Montana prisoner pleaded no contest Tuesday to killing a New Jersey woman nearly seven years ago as she was stopped at an Interstate 40 rest stop in central Arkansas on a cross-country trip. Ronald James Ward, who is serving life in prison for another killing, was linked to the slaying of 25-year-old Kristin Laurite through DNA five years after the woman was stabbed repeatedly, sexually assaulted and left to die at the rest stop near Morrilton. Ward, 40, was arrested last year while in prison and returned to Arkansas over the weekend for his Conway County court appearance Tuesday. He initially told the court he would plead guilty. But after talking to a public defender, Ward changed his plea. He acknowledged he was responsible for Laurite’s death, although he claimed he couldn’t remember it because he had been high on “******, moonshine and *******,” Prosecutor Tom Tatum said. AP/Montana Department of Corrections Ronald James Ward pleaded no contest to the 2000 rest-stop slaying of a New Jersey woman. Tatum described Ward as a drifter who moved between West Virginia and Montana. Sentencing is tentatively scheduled for Thursday. The prosecutor said Ward had agreed to a life sentence. Laurite’s mother Lynn DiBenedetto expressed love for her daughter, and relief. “Finally, justice will be served for the brutal murder of my daughter,” DiBenedetto said in an e-mail to reporters. “Although the pain never goes away, I will finally get some peace of mind knowing that this alleged predator will never again be a part of society.” Laurite left her New Jersey home on a trip to Eureka, Calif., planning to take a job at a day-care center along California’s north coast. By Aug. 25, 2000, she made it to Arkansas, stopping her yellow 1972 Volkswagen van at the Morrilton rest stop to splash water on her face and let her dogs play at a nearby pond. The next day, truckers noticed one of Laurite’s dogs running loose. The trucker called the number on the dog’s tag, finding Laurite’s mother. Laurite’s dogs led officers to her body, dragged down toward the pond. The rest stop, where another murder occurred three years earlier, was closed by the state, and Laurite’s family put up a billboard along the well-traveled highway with a picture of the slain young woman. The image remained up for years, with the plea: “Do you know who murdered me?” Tatum said he was “surprised” by the no contest plea. “I figured we would be in for a long trial because the investigation took place over so many years,” Tatum said. “I think it helped the family quite a bit and it certainly helped the state, too.” Morrilton lawyer John Irwin said Ward didn’t understand the judge’s explanation about the consequences of representing himself so the judge appointed Irwin to represent the Montana convict. “His education level is about fourth grade. He is not dumb. He is unlearned,” Irwin said. “The easiest thing to do would be to have a lawyer.” Citing lawyer-client confidentiality, Irwin declined to talk about other aspects of the case. _______________ insert obligatory signature here
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    Mikel
    He was a freind of mine. Many of you will remember Mikel for his stickers, set list hand-outs and newsletters, and some of you will remember Mikel as one of the most kind and gentle souls you ever met. I didn't know him well, but Mikel was the kind of person who was sincerely kind and somehow made you feel special to him the instant that you met him. Mikel became the first person I would look for at a show, and I know I'm sepaking for many of you, because I stood in his own little "hug lines" many times. I will never forget Mikel. He taught me to try to pour as much kindness and compassion as you humanly can on others. He was a friend of mine.
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Glad for all the times I got to see him. RIP Clarence. Condolences to the band and his loved ones.
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whose children are missing them today, those that are gone, and those that can't be home.....Bless them all
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RIP Clarence, thanks ever so much for the music, energy, and spirit. love&peace.
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Flipping through my old DeadBase VIII, I see that Clarence played saxophone with Grateful Dead on 12/31/88, In Concert Against AIDS on 5/27/89, quite visibly on the 6/21/89 pay-per-view from Shoreline, the Earthquake Relief Benefit on 12/6/89, and then on 12/27/89. If I can find a VHS hi-fi machine that works, I'll slip in the 6/21/89 video!!
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I had a nagging feeling that the last time I saw you with Bruce in concert (11/2/09) might be the last time ever for me, but never did I really imagine this. You will be missed.
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Died on June 16th A true original, crazy man, prolific song writer and street singer. How his tuneless ranting could be so catchy and fun I have no idea, but it was. A man with mental illness entertaining, making us smile and laugh with him but not at him. His recording of a jingle for Rhino Records was their first release and the start of their transition from record store to record label. I hope Rhino are paying tribute to him; if not for him they might not be where they are today, hosting the Grateful Dead archive. Farewell Wild Man http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OnHHk9z8iGE
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SPAM....which I'd like to forget.....
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My friend Jim lost his wife, Melissa, to cancer this week: It was a long battle and he deserves a break from the frustration & anguish of medical appointments, treatments, and the final path to her death, with help from a hospice. Take a moment to wish him well. Her ashes will soon be dispersed, west of Ward, CO, in some beautiful mountain setting.
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that's a tough one. Healing thoughts and peaceful times to him.
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Jim and Melissa will be in my thoughts and prayers......
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Jim and Melissa will be in my thoughts and prayers......
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Peace to Melissa, and healing vibes to Jim.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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I had to put my best friend down tonight. She was a horse in her 30's and lived and awesome life and made mine worth living. Really gonna miss her every day.. :(
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am very sad and sorry to hear that. My deepest sympathies.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Spare a thought for my Uncle, Edward Behan, whose funeral is on Monday.A sudden heart attack, no warning, leaving behind a wonderful family with young grandchildren who have yet to comprehend. A real good egg; jolly, with a smile that could guide you safely home. It was Jerry's solo in Estimated Prophet from 5/10/1978 that comforted me when my father died, and no doubt will show the path for my Uncle's soul to the next realm. Campai, Uncle, Campai!
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for your uncle, his family, and for you jonapi. Lost my dad very suddenly in December, so truly know how it feels! R.I.P. ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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RIP for your uncle, and healing vibes for you and your family.
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Thank you so much, TigerLilly and gratefaldean. Truly appreciated. A good day all told; his wife, children and their wives strong. A wonderful eulogy, his sons carrying the coffin into the church. All of them linking hands in the beautiful spirit of unity. A real nice family, you know? Nice and tight. Just damn good people. Great to catch up with my Uncles, Aunts and cousins; been far too long since we were all together. Apparently, the inquest was indeed a sudden heart attack; didn't smoke, didn't drink, ate healthily. No warning, no signs. End of another era. But he lives through his wife, great sons and his effervescent grandchildren Let us all burn brightly everyone. Time is indeed shorter than we ever care to realise. While we are here, let us appreciate, understand and study the many levels of existence that await us, seen and unseen. Thank you both once again.
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You have my deepest sympathies on the death of your uncle. May the peace which comes from the memories of love shared, comfort you now and in the days ahead.
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Totmom Casey Anthony just got a free pass with a Not Guilty verdict in Orlando, FL. Her daughter, Caylee, was murdered 3 years ago. Stunning verdict, to say the least. No confessions and no definitive evidence: just a smelly car trunk, a bag of 6 month old bones, and a mom that lied a lot while partying and not contacting police for a month after Caylee vanished. Wonder what will happen to her now, as her home life with the folks might be just a little bit estranged. Perhaps a lucrative book deal will give her a jumpstart, although the taxpayers in Florida will take the hit on Casey's defense legal bill.
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I'm always up for sending some healing vibes to those in need of some. I hope you're doing well,my friend. Yes, I am a bit of a rookie on here but I'm loving it so far! The people on here are really chill and its fun to see all the conversations that go on. I'm still trying to get the hang of it! And its ok to ramble, I think that's where the best thoughts come from :) Looking forward to talking more with you and likewise, if you need anything.. shoot me a message. Peace
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Hey, don't speak to mountainjam28 like that, johnman........... he he.
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spammer sent to the bit bucket where they will not be remembered.
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It was to the spammer whom dear marye sent to spamhell, where all good (huh?) spammers go. Golly.....I'm not a hassshoe....jeeebers....yek ek ek ek ek ek ek....(popeye laff)..rarrarrf!!! wagwagwag
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I wanna take her to a show...Mom, ya shouldn't have left so young. Ya didn't meetcher grandson, even....if you were still here, I know my family would not have imploded (or deploded, or hexplowdid, or.....or.... whatever).....Dang it, Mom......just plain MISS you.....aLOT.
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Yes it was johnman, don't lie!!!!!! Ha ha!!! I know what you mean about missing a parent; i lost my Dad to cancer in 2004. I was at work when i got the phone call. Managed to see him that morning too and told him a joke. Was hallucinating through a Dick's Picks at the time; worked out that the moment he died was just as "Looks Like Rain" started. It sure did Dad, it sure did... But, they've only left the physical plane; sometimes no consolation when you wake up at 2.00am hurting, but they ARE all around us. We just have to readjust our vision; it's time for the peripheral to become our main means of focus; the sidereal our ability to see. Still wish he was here though.....
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It was a tumor that got my mom...they tried to cut it out, but that just woke it up, and made it grow. I went home on emergency leave for the surgery, missing a Garcia show onboard the carrier I was assigned to, but it was weeks later that we lost her. I never did get to say goodbye, though I know she's watchin' out for me. It's been almost 25 years and it still hurts... I expect it always will.....
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((HUGS)) Johnman! And I get impatient with myself for still hurting so for my Dad after 7 months********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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so sorry, both of you.
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Spare a thought for many people today - Including the families with small children that died in a cruiser accident on the River Volga in Russia yesterday. Looks positively awful. The victims of the train crash in Fatephur, India. And the recent severe drought in East Africa. Yep, it's the poor who suffer again. We don't know how lucky we are.....
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I lost my Dad 8 years ago. While he was in hospital and after we had been told to expect the worst at any time,I had to attend a meeting 70 miles away ( a sales meeting which the company refused to release me from), I asked the guy in charge of the meeting if I could leave my mobile on vibrate and explained my circumstances, to be told all mobiles must be switched off. When the meeting ended and as I was leaving the building I switched on my phone to see 23 missed calls/messages. It turns out my boss, secretary, wife and sister had been phoning from around half an hour after the start of the meeting to say my Dad had taken a turn for the worse and the end was very near. Luckily after a frantic drive I managed to get to the hospital around 20-30 minutes before my dad passed away, so was with him at the end. However when I think of the anguish and frustration my Mother, sister and wife were put through as they frantically tried to get a hold of me I still feel very bitter that one individual caused them additional grief due to his lack of compassion. On the brighter side, I always try to take something good from what life throws at me, and I truly believe my Dad hung on until I could be with him and share his final moments which I still treasure to this day.
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Absolutely he hung on riggsjr.You are very lucky that he was surrounded by the ones who loved him in his final moments. Its a huge comfort for the soul after death. For the last images and sensations to be so full of love and compassion in those hours, minutes and seconds before the journey into another realm is so deeply powerful, so precious, that we won't fully comprehend until it's our turn, should we be so fortunate. For me to witness my Dad laughing with a throaty cough on the morning of the day he died, at a perfectly cheesy joke, when he was obviously deeply uncomfortable and wanting to pass over because the pain was too much to take was a blessing i never take lightly. Sometimes i forget, like you do when life continues and the years roll by, but then when it suddenly hits you like a lightning bolt, and they speak to you in your dreams, those tears come from the very pit of your stomach and make you realise that you were a part in something that others only dream of. We are indeed extremely lucky.
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By the way, my Dad also died 8 years ago. And it does indeed, never go away. Even though they would want it to.
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jonapi, thanks for your comments. My Dad was a great music lover and a fine instrumentalist and I still find myself hearing a tune and saying " Oh I must let my Dad hear this" or hearing a really funny story and thinking "must tell my dad that one", these are the times when it hits home most. Does anyone else do that? Like most sons and parents we had our ups and downs but I think that is what makes the relationship grow. Getting over the fall outs and the occasional differences of opinion I think makes the bond stronger.
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What does one play after exhausting oneself of Fenders and Gibsons? RIP " Steal Your Jazz "
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R.I.P. I loved your voice, and your talent.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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21 yrs since we lost brent :( blessed to of seen him. IMO the best pianist i have ever seen and i have played and seen lots. Amazing talent. (~);-)
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a dark day...
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not a fan of her music but sadness for Amy Winehouse.a funny old thing; cracking sense of humour. shame she couldn't drag herself from the hole that is Camden. tight jeans and poseurs, street garbage and cheap alcohol. users and sidewalks of grime. many artists of such a young age have tasted heroin. not many had a camera in their faces or outside their home. congratulations husband and media. troubled, surely, but you played your part. Take care on the other side, Amy.
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RIP Naoki Matsuda, former Japan football defender. Died from a heart attack at the age of 34. After a brief 15 minute training session he lay down, exclaiming he felt tired and fell into unconsciousness. The club's standby nurse applied heart massage to resuscitate him. While his heartbeat returned, he remained in critical condition in hospital for three days before passing away shortly after 1pm on Thursday afternoon.
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In memory of Jerry Garcia; another anniversary we could all do without. just seen his beaming smile on the 06/21/89 show at Shoreline and him fumble the lyrics to Touch Of Gray; that'll teach him for getting too excited! grinning away and then losing his place hee! hee! be thinking of you today for sure. http://www.livestream.com/davidaron/video?clipId=pla_8639144558126932321
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Another year goes byAnother tear in my eye
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Conrad Schnitzler.- Tangerine Dream member and krautrock/electronic pioneer. Joe Lee Wilson. - soulful jazz vocalist who worked with Archie Shepp, Sonny Rollins, Pharoah Sanders, Sunny Murray, Miles Davis and more.
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My best friend died. He had a bad heart. It finally gave out, as he has known it would, since he was a young man. He was 47 years old. Jeff was a genius. He was a jack-of-all-trades. He was also a deadhead...an extraordinary human being. The Grateful Dead family fit his gentle nature perfectly. He loved the music, the people, the natural family that grew out of the friendships he made on the 'bus'... He was able to use his skills and his brain to earn his keep and to help out people along the tour. and he loved the music...there was nothing in life that was too stressful that a Grateful Dead show couldn't cure...no matter how bad the day was, there was always a reason to get up and dance when Jerry was playing... Recently Jeff told me that he was bummed that so many people were needing help these days and he didn't have the means to help them all...he hated the politics that created the wealth divide, making things harder and harder for so many people. it weighed heavily on him. Jeff's heart finally gave out a few weeks ago when he was at Riverbend, his favorite place...his grandparent's place along the big river, where he had loved to play, as a child. He was revived enough for the ambulance to get him to the hospital, but then everything began to fail and he was kept alive on life support. He was non-responsive for a week or so.... Before they let him go, his sister brought in a Grateful Dead cd and as his family stood by him, she, holding his hands, talking to him, turned on the music. they had to smile when they looked down and saw that he was somehow, actually tapping his feet to the beat. the music truly was deep in his soul... They knew it was o.k... they let him go out, dancing... i love you Jeff!
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Sorry Sue for your loss: may the 4 winds blow him to a better place. Gr8ful Ted in KC
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Thanks Ted. I'm sure people on here knew Jeff, although not by that name. He often went by Hippie, or alot of times Rider (as he used forms of I Know You Rider for his emails and nicknames). He lived in Nashville. I'm not sure what nick he used on Dead.net. So my hope is that some of his friends here will see this and know that he is gone. He touched many lives in his short but very full life. He was a very good man. I miss him. Thanks for your kind words. sue