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    and a dark day it was, too...
    thanks for the reminder.
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    In Memory Brent Mydland
    Hey All 17 years ago today we lost our brother Brent
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    Bill had long wavy red hair
    Bill had long wavy red hair and a red beard. He always used to wear a cap with a Hot Tuna patch on it. I think it was a blue cap, Chinese type. I met him in NYC between shows. I was broke and he helped me out. We hit up the Floyd shows at Nassau and made our way down to the Capital Centre by train and hitching for the boys. He told me a weird story about his childhood which lead me to believe he was from the mid west perhaps. I remember catching up with him on the Haight and then at MSG during the Rainforest run. He passed out in a car next to me after booting dope. Worrying! Later he told me someone had taken his money while he was out! Something I never liked about NYC shows, THAT kinda stuff! A bro' named Tanith told me he'd read a newspaper article that said Bill had been shot in the head in Alphabet City. We guessed he'd been trying to score and got robbed! He was a really far out brother and sadly missed! Peace to u where ever u are brother!!! Are you kind?
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    Hey Now! For all those who knew him, Pauli is gone. I heard from The Balloon Lady that he passed away sometime in 2006 in San Francisco. He was apparently homeless and died on the road. He had become mentally unstable after years of "too much of everything". He was one of my best friends, a graduate of the "University of Space", a father, and a son. He is survived by his mother in Missouri. We had many a great adventure together. Pauli remains alive in our hearts, minds, and memories. "Once in a while you get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right" Peace, Jim & Zoe
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    Paul loved the Dead. Paul played his red gibson and he sounded alot like Jerry. Paul was a great friend. We moved out west together in 1984. I taught you how to ski and snowboard. You picked both up and you actually skiied really well. I remember when we hiked into the backcountry by Brighton and your leg fell into that hole and the snow froze and we couldn't get your leg out. I thought you were going to leave us right there. We had fun at the Snowbird, too. Life happened and you moved back east. Speedballs and wild turkey proved to be a bad combination. Paul had a thirst for the fast life. Paul also had a huge bootleg collection. I still have some that I borrowed. Morgantown '83 and Hershey '85, my favorite. I have a graet picture of you at Redrocks '84. I'll post it when I figure out how. You live in my mind Paul. Rest in peace!
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    The 2 Christophers (Rockwell & Burton)
    Great guys that were taken in their prime. Both tragic losses for all involved.Both big fans of Jerry and the fellas. Although Burton could be a handfull at times, there was nothing but love going on here. Both were great atheletes, one basketball and golf and Burton was a gifted scoccer midfielder. Gone but never forgotten Fare the well...my brothers. “The Omnipotent Grateful Dead!”
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    William ( Billy) Jones
    Hey all, I was saddened to hear the news today of a former player I coached being murdered in Conway NH yesterday in an apparent botched robbery. Billy was one of three people killed. My heart goes out to his family at this time of sorrow; his parents and other brothers two of which I also coached.
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    Marty Soucie
    Marty was a good friend of mine while I was stationed in Puerto Rico in the mid '90s. He was the proprietor of the Grateful Bed and Breakfast in Luquillo Puerto Rico. Sadly he died in a fire at his bed and breakfast in early 2001. I first met Marty not long after Jerry died. At the time I was new to the Navy (only out of bootcamp for a few months), and with news of Jerry's passing, I kind of sunk into the proverbial funk. I have family down there, but they had no idea who Jerry Garcia was (my great aunt thought he was a Puerto Rican salsa musician:) ) My barracks-mate found a copy of "Skeleton's Key" at the Exchange and picked it up for me, hoping to cheer me up. One evening, while flipping through the book, I came across the name and address for Marty's bed and breakfast. Holy crap, I thought, that just 20 minutes from base! I called and talked for a while to Marty. I took a few days leave and headed down. It was the hight of summer (the off-season) so I was the only guest. It was nice to hang out with another deadhead after all the previous months of military yahoos. Finally, someone who really understood the gravity of Jerry's death (most of my fellow shipmates made snide jokes to me about Jerry's death). It was a nice weekend. Because I was his only guest, we hung out, visiting his friends in the rain forest, hiking, and BSing. I also taped a ton of shows from his vast collection:) Every few weeks we'd get together for dinner or just to hang out and listen to tunes, talk politics, the Dead, and drink rum and cokes. I can't tell you how nice it was to have a deadhead friend down there. It was a nice escape from the military. Not long after, I was transfered to the fleet, and sent to the "four winds." We exchanged a few letters, but as these things often go, I lost touch. News of his passing saddened and angered me. I felt bad that I had lost touch. He was a great guy, attempting to create a little deadhead enclave in the middle of paradise. He is missed. Fare-thee-well Marty! Your friend, Mike. Yo Soy Boricua!
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    Brad was a good kid from NJ who got into it in the early nineties. He had a nice family and was a solid drummer! A solidly built guy who wore glasses, kinda thick lenses! He was a mellow cat, a lotta fun, too much sometimes! This especially worried me the last time I saw him at the Charlotte shows in '92. He was really messy! Doped out. I was worried he'd get popped as he seemed desperate to make some $ on the lot. I told him to cool it as it was crazy hot out there! He ended up getting put away sometime later. I think he did 2 years in a rehab style bootcamp in NY State. He was clean and started going to college after he got out. He had a nice girlfriend. I remember getting a piece of mail with his address and being really stoked. I opened it and there were photos of him. His mother and brother had written that he'd gone down to NYC to buy some "shirts" from a dude whose name rang a bell. They decided to party for old times sake. He overdosed! We have such blessings, why gamble everything for a buzz? We all need to ask ourselves this question at certain times I'm sure. Love and Light, J Are you kind?
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    A great bro' who spent the later few years of his life based up in Humboldt with his good brother Tom. They lived in a cool dome house! Joe was a fixture in the scene during the era my other friends (see above) and I were around. He was also a fine guitar player who I would have loved to have formed a band with. Sadly it was not to be! Another brother who passed due to a smack overdose. He'd been clean for awhile and relapsed. I would hope that all these losses set an example to our family to not waste our lives in this way. We should do something with our lives to spread the light we have found. I know we are more sensitive people than the rest, but we can't find true shelter in drug abuse. It's just an illusion. We need to look at the way the native Americans embrace sacrament use instead of abusing it. We're given an insight that we need to go out and spread not dull with addictive substances. We have shed too many tears! We need each other here-to support each other in our works. Let's keep on keeping on! Are you kind?
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Sorry to see you've lost your sister-in-law to such a dreadful disease. I hope you and your family make it through the holidays okay.
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sorry for your loss, glad for Sue's freedom at last after such a long ordeal.
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of Jesus on His Birthday! Today is the 25th of December in the 2011th day of Our Lord. To be Sure. (EST) 2011 AD or 2011 After Death (of Jesus) (What a horrrible death. See here.) Yes-----> the year is 2011 AD Some people keep track of these things. We just finished having birthday cake for Jesus and it was delicious! I made it super special with lot's of love, xo! A song for All of Us! Hearing Jerry do this tune with JGB was God send. Child-like and Grandparent reflection though out the song! Now, if I can remember where we were. My Sisters and Brothers A I want to say to my sisters and my brothers D Keep the faith A When the storm flies and the wind blows E Go on at a sturdy pace A add7 When the battle is fought and the victory's won D We can all shout together, "We have overcome!" A D We'll talk to the father and the son A When we make it to the promised land When we walk together little children We don't ever have to worry Through this world of trouble We've got to love one another Let us take our fellow man by the hand Try to help him to understand We can all be together forever and forever When we make it to the promised land Our bible reads Thou shalt not be afraid Of the terror by night Or the arrow that flies by day Nor for the pestilence That walketh in the darkness Nor for the destruction That waiteth in the noon-day hour We will walk together little children We don't ever have to worry Through this world of trouble We got to love one another Let us take our fellow man by the hand Try and help him to understand We can all be together forever and forever When we make it to the promised land *Solo* (verse) This world is not our home We're only passing through Our train is all made up Way beyond the blue Let us do the very best that we can While we're travelling through this land We can all be together shakin' our hand When we make it to the promised land, children When we make it to the promised land Make it to the promised land Make it to the promised land Make it to the promised land When we make it to the promised land Make it to the promised land We can all be together forever and ever When we make it to the promised land We can all be together forever and ever When we make it to the promised land~~ I love you all. Like the Prince of Peace. ---------(----@
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but know that any sadness also is accompanied by 'welcome tears' as this conclusion is a much preferred alternative to how Sue was 'living'. While a tragic ending, Sue's life was grand one and filled with joy, family, and many efforts to bring fairness and justice to individuals and our social fabric. And now to her well deserved rest........take care, sister, take care and thanks for lessons learned.
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sorry Oroboros, have only just checked this topic.may i offer my sincere condolences to you and your family and friends. i really understand when you say a better conclusion than the alternative of living and suffering. my Dad felt the same way towards the end of his life from terminal cancer; i remember him quietly and gently saying to my mum one day, that he'd had enough and just couldn't deal with the pain anymore. it is indeed preferable to such terrible discomfort. they are both now free to explore the Universe and have reached peace. a new fantastical journey begins... take care and always feel free to PM me if you want to talk or ramble or reminisce. "Remember the clear light, the pure clear white light from which everything in the universe comes, to which everything in the universe returns".
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a couple of belated shout-outs to two wonderful musicians who made my world just that little bit brighter. Euclid James 'Motorhead' Sherwood - May 8, 1942 – December 25, 2011 member of Frank Zappa's original Mothers; automobile tinkerer, voice effecter and saxophonic blurter. shook a mean tambourine too. sadly missed. lastly, the magnificent Sam Rivers - September 25, 1923 – December 26, 2011 mighty jazz musician and composer; how i would've loved to be present at the Studio Rivbea loft in those free jazz blowout days. sadly missed.
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R,I.P. Yannik. 14 years old, and friend of my son.lost his life Friday night, due to a very stupid decision. Left a whole bunch of kids severely traumatized-especially the ones who were there and saw the train run him over. A whole lot of people need prayers and vibes after this one.
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that is just horrible. So sorry for your son and his friends.
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oh, good lord, that's terribly sad. absolutely awful.please pass on my prayers and condolences to everyone involved. please let them all band together and share their wounds openly. let them all be strong. let them heal deeply and let us all offer compassion and strength.
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One thing that IS good is how the kids are sticking together. Saturday night most of my son's clique met to hang out, and try to help each other deal. They learned in a very hard way that they aren't immortal, and that certain rules like "cross the tracks with the tunnel, not directly" exist for a very good reason. They're taking turns reaching out to the parents, will show up en masse at the funeral and things like that.
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thats good to hear.it really is the most effective way of dealing with things like that; everyone sticks tight and helps the best way they can. the power of community. a harsh lesson to learn at such a young age but hopefully it will influence them in a positive way in later life. thats all one can hope for. be strong guys. The Tibetan Book Of Living And Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche is a really helpful book for future reading, especially after the initial shock and grief has passed.
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passed away after an ongoing battle with leukemia, sad to say. Now personally, I do not think "At Last" can be beat, and it was actually made into one of the most beautiful car commercials ever produced (which I say with no trace of irony, art and beauty are art and beauty). However, thanks to Barry Howarth, we have this, which many of us actually witnessed, and remember fondly...
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I really used to love his radio show.
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I share the woe.I am the woe. A toast to them, All! In memory of my John and now, our dearest and best friend ~Bob. Thank goodness somethings... never change. I love you, All. ----------------------------(---@
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yeah, that's lovely. really nice words.hope everything goes smoothly. will be thinking of everyone throughout the day. i raise a glass of the good stuff to his memory and his family and friends. such a sad shame to be taken so soon.
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Tell them to keep his love and tolet it heal them in times of sorrow. You can't keep the body but you can keep the love. I have tons of it, I know this is true. Love to You and ALL of Them, XO. ------------------------(----@ Cut and paste and distribute with said tale... if need be. I love you, xo.
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R.I.P. Don Cornelius - September 27, 1936 – February 1, 2012 creator of Soul Train, in what appears to be a suicide. those programs had some wonderful, classic performances. “You can bet your last money, it's all gonna be a stone gas, honey! I'm Don Cornelius, and as always in parting, we wish you love, peace and soul." D.C.
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Eiko Ishioka, born 12 July 1938; died 21 January 2012. stunning graphic designer and art director. her work includes production designer for Mishima: A Life in Four Chapters, sets and costumes for Madam Butterfly, costume design for Coppola's Bram Stoker's Dracula, design for Miles Davis' Tutu album, costumes for the opening ceremony of the Beijing Olympics, and the design and direction for Björk's Cocoon video amongst many other photographic and design work. an extraordinary talent.
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Dead family member, sometimes the band manager, longtime member of the Rex board of directors and still on the advisory board at the time of his passing. Also a really sweet guy. In Memory of Jon McIntire
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Middle East correspondent for NY Times and frequent guest on serious news outlets. I was saddened to learn of his sudden passing. It is a great loss for the world community. Rest in peace, Anthony.
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I would be remiss if I did not point out that the Warren Hellman memorial concert in SF, which could reasonably be characterized as a mini Hardly Strictly Bluegrass, will start streaming live in about an hour. Jimmie Dale Gilmore, Gillian Welch, Emmylou Harris and more. Details here.
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"Peter C. Michielini, 55, of Belleville, N.J., passed away Sunday, Aug. 14, 2011. From his early days as a national tour chef for Grateful Dead Productions, to the day of his passing, Mr. Michielini had two passions in life, the preparation of exceptional cuisine, and a ravenous desire to read everything. His friends will remember, "He made one hell of a bearnaise." Sadly, Peter has passed on. I first met Pete when I was 16 and then went through Ramapo College in N.J. with him. Peter would come off the road with the band and tell me some great stories! I asked if he gets along with the band and the crew and he said;"Yeah, but they call us 'kitchen puke!!!". Peter was the "other catering people" that jumped into the canal in Florida to save the sick soul with a nail gun that wanted to ""see Jerry". The guy pointed the gun at Parish and the crew threw the guy in the canal. Pete, being trained as a lifeguard, naturally jumped in and saved him.This incident was chronicled in Gans' 'Playing in the Band' book. Peter was a great cook and one of the most intelligent people I've ever known. We all loved Pete and will miss him.
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that the world lost such an angelic voice. Hope you're in a "Happy Land" now, Georgia. May your memory and music live on.
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as i sit back sometimes. and i remember things. one of my memories is always with my great grandfather at his house as a kid. i remember loving to go to his house. grandma got sick with alzheimers and was in a home, and my grate grandfather was in poor health. i remember my mother let me take a week off school so i could go with him cuz he was a truck driver. unfortunately a few days later he passed away. but that was such a great week. i remember we left pa and went all around to the southern states. he had a cassette deck and shortly after the truck left the driveway, cigarette in his mouth, and my first cigarette lit, he told me to grab his tapecase marked gd. all we did is listen to his collection of grateful dead tapes. full shows and everything. i didnt take in alot of it at the time, but i do remember as we got back home, the last sentance from the stereo was what a long strange trip its been. i gave him a hug and told him i had so much fun. when he died in the hospital he was listening to that tape. and it was at the same spot it stopped in his truck as when his heart stopped. i didnt listen to the dead until i turned 19. now i understand it all. i miss him lots and hes always in my heart. when i get the money i wanna get the space your face locket necklace and put a picture of him in it as a way to me to keep him close to my heart physically.
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true companion of my much loved Uncle, Anne Morgan passed away today from terminal cancer.forever thoughtful and in tune with nature, it happened all too soon. thank God he was there in the hospital to guide her to the next realm. all of us should be so lucky that we have a loved one at our side. and that was a wonderful post, piper at the gates of dawn. the trip is certainly long and strange. thanks for sharing your thoughts. they don't go unnoticed.
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and sorry for your loss and your uncle's, jonapi.
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Ronnie Montrose joined the Heart of Gold band after a long battle with prostrate cancer, and what an addition he is, I remember in 72 when Montrose hit the airwaves with this unknown singer and those awesome guitar riffs, he will be missed.Davy Jones singer for the Monkees, amerika's answer to the beatles, the "cute" monkey. I remember back in 67, I was just a wee lad and was a big monkey fan, my older brother and I went to see the Monkees, I had no idea who Jimi Hendrix was, being but 13 I was one of those "Davy, Mickey screamers", but my brother had heard him and he was there to see Jimi, I wanted Davy. Then, I heard Hendrix and it was a life changing moment. I would never listen to surf music again. Rest in Peace Both gone before their time.
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bad week...
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I hope you are at peace
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pls i need help to code a super list data structure in c programming language. pls send the code to my email right away. Healthe Trim
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Moebeus, who I once had the very great pleasure of working with. We lost a creative genius, and a very kind man.
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Rest In Peace Mœbius. a real artist in every sense of the word. very sad.
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Robert Sherman. Songwriter, born 19 December 1925; died 5 March 2012. Composer, along with his younger brother Richard for some wonderful films as Mary Poppins, The Jungle Book, Bedknobs and Broomsticks, The Aristocats, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, as well as other Walt Disney productions. Such effervescence in his songs; Mary Poppins alone would be a lifetime's achievement but the others too? simply sublime.
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William Everett Strange. Guitarist, arranger and songwriter, born 29 September 1930; died 22 February 2012. Part of the astonishing Wrecking Crew. Collaborated with Elvis Presley, the Beach Boys, Phil Spector, the Sinatra family, the Everly Brothers, Jan and Dean, Lee Hazlewood, Duane Eddy and Love. Good Lord Almighty....
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James Wesley "Red" Holloway, saxophonist, born 31 May 1927; died 25 February 2012. Tenor Saxophonist. what a most incredible resume: Yusef Lateef, Dexter Gordon, Willie Dixon, Billie Holiday, Muddy Waters, Chuck Berry, Ben Webster, Jimmy Rushing, Arthur Prysock, Dakota Staton, Eddie Vinson, Wardell Gray, Sonny Rollins, Red Rodney, Lester Young, Joe Williams, Redd Foxx, B.B. King, Bobby Bland and Aretha Franklin, Sonny Stitt, Memphis Slim, Lionel Hampton, Clark Terry, Etta James......
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born 20 December 1953; died 9 March 2012. lead singer with Radio Tarifa. fantastic band that mixed spanish, arabic, north african and many styles inbetween. everyone should own Rumba Argelina. sadly missed.
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RIP I may have first heard of him from watching "The Beverly Hillbillies," and I may have thought of bluegrass music as being corny at the time, but eventually I learned the errors of my early misconceptions. Another great one now playing in the Heart of Gold Band...
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oh, thats absolutely heartbreaking.that sound always spoke to my soul; the first time i heard his playing i felt like it was a part of me, the very fabric of my being. about as far removed from the mountain plains and lonesome pine as i am, it connected with me. deeply. rest in peace, Sir. sadly, sadly missed. such a sweet sweet blend; a part of my heritage meets the North Carolinian blue grass foggy fellow
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For Angel and Athena Dear friends gone but not forgotten. Mercy and Lovingkindness for all they knew and loved. Scars this had left on me will be there at my passing. All my love now and forever to you both. My sadness is conceivable to those that understand it but immeasurable to all but one. "Lay down and take your rest..." "I love you oh but Jesus loves you... the Best."
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R.I.P. T.V. journalist Mike Wallace. Had NO idea he was 93, just was such a household name in journalism for as long as I can remember.
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just when life seems almost too unbearable, the rains come.... please take time out of your days ahead to offer healing, compassion, safe passage and guidance to one of the finest musicians who ever lived. Levon Helm. "Dear Friends, Levon is in the final stages of his battle with cancer. Please send your prayers and love to him as he makes his way through this part of his journey. Thank you fans and music lovers who have made his life so filled with joy and celebration... he has loved nothing more than to play, to fill the room up with music, lay down the back beat, and make the people dance! He did it every time he took the stage... We appreciate all the love and support and concern. From his daughter Amy, and wife Sandy".
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that is very sad news indeed. A true original.
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in love and peace, Levon! SNIFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF!
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Dick died today from a massive heart attack.