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    3 years since dearest Unkle Sleazy passed.doesn't seem real. Surgeon - Peter Christopherson Tribute Mix '25th November 2013 marks 3 years since Peter died, so it's time to re-post as the original link to this recording has expired. We all miss you Uncle Sleazy. Original post- dj-surgeon.blogspot.co.uk/2010/12/pete…ute-mix.html The first hour of my DJ set at Bleep43 on December 3rd was a tribute to Peter Christopherson, who died on November 25th. I chose tracks that either featured his voice, or that I especially connected with him. Many people have asked me about the set and if it was recorded, so I've decided to make it available. Recorded at Corsica Studios, London, between 11pm and Midnight on December 3rd, 2010.' Coil Vs. ELpH - pHILM #1 CoH & Coil - My Angel (Directors Cut) Coil - Moon's Milk Or Under An Unquiet Skull (Part 2) Coil - Various Hands Coil - Red Weather Coil - Cardinal Points Coil - At The Heart Of It All COH - Silence Is Golden (voice Peter Christopherson) Coil - Are You Shivering? Coil - Going Up Coil - The Hills Are Alive http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Christopherson http://thresholdhouse.com/ http://www.brainwashed.com/coil/ I still catch myself checking your Twitter page and Threshold House to see what you're up to. Only to realise that you're no longer with us in material form. Incredibly sad. You were/are still an incredible inspiration. An innovator. A true Artist. I miss you Unkle Sleazy, Randall Lard.
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    God Bless J F K. Happen to have worked in the house in Hyannisport many many times is like a museum of photos of a legend that was taken from this life time to early. love ya gg
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    Events to commemorate 50th anniversary of JFK assassination: Observances for Friday and beyond. Barnstable: -Wreath-laying ceremony at the John F. Kennedy Memorial. 10 a.m. Friday, in Veterans Memorial Park on Ocean Street, Hyannis. -Press conference at the John F. Kennedy Hyannis Museum. 10:30 a.m. Friday, 397 Main St., Hyannis. -Memorial Mass at St. Francis Xavier Church. 2 p.m. Friday, 347 South St., Hyannis. Boston: -Statue of John F. Kennedy to be open for public viewing. 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Friday and Monday, State House. -Special Mass commemorating the assassination anniversary. 12:10 p.m. Friday, Blessed Sacrament Chapel, Cathedral of the Holy Cross, 1400 Washington St. -Online-only livestream of a musical tribute in Kennedy’s honor, featuring James Taylor, saxophonist Paul Winter, and the US Naval Academy Women’s Glee Club.1:30 p.m. to 2:15 p.m Friday, John F. Kennedy Library and Museum, Columbia Point, Dorchester. (www.jfklibrary.org). -Fiftieth anniversary exhibit starting Friday, running until Feb. 23. Artifacts on display for the first time will include a green beret left on Kennedy’s gave by a serviceman, the American flag draped on Kennedy’s coffin, and the saddle, sword, and boots carried by Black Jack, the riderless horse that followed Kennedy’s coffin in his funeral procession. John F. Kennedy Library and Museum, Columbia Point. Brookline: -Guided tours of Kennedy’s birthplace. 9:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday, 83 Beals St., Brookline. -A walk from Kehillath Israel Temple to 83 Beals St., featuring speeches from religious and town leaders. A student from the Edward Devotion Elementary School, which Kennedy attended, will lead a song. 1:30 p.m. Sunday. -Memorial wreath-laying, 2 p.m. Sunday, 83 Beals St. Haverhill: -Memories of Kennedy from local and state officeholders in an opening ceremony. 10 a.m. Friday, North Essex Community College Hartleb Technology Center. -A panel discussion titled “The JFK Assassination: What Really Happened.” 11:30 a.m. Saturday, North Essex Community College Hartleb Technology Center. -Former Kennedy campaign volunteers Frank O’Connor, of Andover, and Ronald Martin, of Lawrence, share their experiences with Kennedy during his presidential and senatorial campaigns. 2 p.m. Sunday, North Essex Community College Hartleb Technology Center. Lowell: : -The University of Massachusetts Lowell orchestra will perform a free concert, with narration by State Senator Eileen Donoghue. 7:30 p.m. Friday, Durgin Concert Hall, South Campus, 35 Wilder St. Springfield: -Three red roses will be placed at the foot of the John F. Kennedy memorial stone, and a memorial wreath will be placed at the foot of the eternal flame in Forest Park at 1 p.m. Friday. From 11 a.m. to 2 p.m., fees to enter the park will be waived. Remarks will be made by Mayor Domenic J. Sarno, US Representative Richard E. Neal, Hampden County Sheriff Michael J. Ashe, and master of ceremonies James Sullivan. ***** ****** ****** ****** ****** ******* A nation came of age and also died with the rise of this president and his untimely demise. Whether you subscribe to a plot or a lone nut or something in between it is hard not to see Nov. 22nd as a high tide mark mark in American history. That is, the tide came in and floated a lot of boats past the high water mark and on this date it left that high water mark in Dealy Plaza, Dallas, Texas. The tide went out and our country was never the same again. Indeed, in fifty years there has been a regression the planet will never, ever, recover from. Oh sure, there was ten years of of forward momentum that saw the landmark of African-American rights and the rise of the Free Speech Movement. The hippy culture and LSD left an indelible mark on the world the reverberates still today. But in some ways Moratorium Day in 1971, when 30,000 protesters to the Vietnam war were herded into RFK (in Washington DC) in a mass arrest marked the end of forward progress as measured by an NFL running back. Maybe that day was Earth Day in 1970. Maybe it was the Dead show with the Allman's at Watkin's Glen. Certainly there are several ways to measure the peak. But the high point was a youthful president that led a still-believing nation along the road to an America marking something better, something to be looked up to. Something to be emulated for a lot of tortured souls around the world rotting in the Gulag or some other third world hell-hole. The morals contest had clearly been won against the Russians and America was at the forefront of whatever could be positively imagined. And then meaner and smaller and greedier people stepped in and, hiding behind corporations, turned our world into a hellishly small and rotting stomping ground of waste and corruption and increasing extinction of life. ~ Joltin' John has left and gone away Hey, hey, hey! ~ (sorry Simon & Garfunkel)
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    It was my Dad's birthday on the 17th of November and a moment for him... It's hunting season in New York and my Dad was an avid outdoors man; my family too. They hunted varieties of game and fowl. My Uncle an excellent Trapper and always cared for the wilderness til the day he died. A great example to anyone. It was a special and very exciting time for everyone when they came home with trophy buck. Then, the trim would hit the grinder with sage and pepper, sharpest knives cut strips of jerky and the comfort from the harvest settling in and around. With the temperatures ice cold outside the break down was bliss. Perfectly cold... Oh, just like today and tomorrow too. Perfectly cold...tomorrow, I am driving my nephew up into the hills to meet a very best and old friend of mine. He has some land that he said could be hunted on. It's so beautiful there on his farm, I worked for him bailing hay and doing chores. It will be great to introduce them, they will hunt this weekend there and maybe the next one too. There are alot of farmers up in those hills that I have been friends with, it will be hard not to visit them all. One of them named a cow after me, Sherry was a good cow and she knew her name too, all his cows had names, (by the way). I have my Sportsman Licence and am a great shot. I haven't hunted in sometime but have helped breakdown hundreds. Warm game is fresh game. My Dad would come home with a half dozen ducks or geese, he was a great shot! He had accuracy that was awesome, just awesome. Rabbits, pheasants, quail - perfection in sight with little or no damage. Hmmm, I like this Remington 770 http://www.remington.com/en/product-families/firearms/centerfire-famili… I will hope my nephew and his crew will bring one or three in from my friends farm, he will be shooting something like that one. This Christmas everyone should put a Remington under the Christmas for their loved ones. The opportunity will arrive when you can go with crew into the cold too. I hope you all will check out the Remington line and find one to love. It will be a part of your family. Treating it with superiority will come natural. Yep, best gift in 2013, to me, is a Remington, any style and stock. Ah...rambled a little bit but some how I know it was necessary, strange but um yeah. My Grandfathers and all the way back to the Indians in my family, they all had a treasured pieces, like I told you, it's family. The Woods, xo!
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    To that dirty boulevardRIP Lou Reed I loved your New York Disc
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    Lou Reed passed today, another of the artists that coloured our lives. If there is a wild side in heaven, I'll bet most of our lost soul brothers are walking it.
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    though I can't remember if it was the Fillmore or the Great American. Ol' Shane was in rare form. RIP Mr. Chevron.
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    June 17, 1957 to October 8, 2013 "Following the release of the Pogues' 1984 debut album Red Roses For Me, he was invited to join the band on a short-term basis as cover for banjo player Jem Finer's paternity leave. He then took over as guitarist following MacGowan's decision to concentrate on singing—thereby becoming a full-time member of the band in time for the recording of its second album, 'Rum, Sodomy and the Lash'. He also played the banjo and mandolin on Pogues recordings. In June 2007, the Pogues's website announced that Chevron had been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer. In early 2008, the website announced that Chevron had recovered, and, to his surprise and joy, his hearing had returned to almost pre-treatment levels. By 2009, Chevron had fully recovered from both the cancer and the resulting chemotherapy provided by the National Health Service in the UK. In May 2013, it was announced that the cancer had returned and it was 'lethal'. Chevron died on October 8, 2013 in Dublin, Ireland from oesophageal cancer at age 56." Borrowed that from Wikipedia, but I thought it was a pretty good yet brief overview of Phil Chevron's career. Not sure if anyone here is a fan of the Pogues, but my wife and I managed to catch the band the last time they were in Baltimore, which was during their Parting Glass Tour. Phil was the easiest band member to spot: he looked exactly like a leprechaun.
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    General Giap died at the age of 102 yesterday in Vietnam. His strategies were instrumental in bringing the country independence from French Colonial rule and more tenaciously from the fangs of America that were then foaming the venom of anti-communist ideology. Giap's tactics became fundamental in the playbook of people's struggles everywhere and were based on organization of the peasants to act as one organism which was an absolute imperative when fighting a vastly superior enemy that has advantages in every category except morality. If one looks at America's greatest sniper, Chris Kyle, it can be seen that he had more than 150 confirmed kills by 2008 in Iraq. He died in 2012 at the age of 35 due to a violent confrontation. General Giap was responsible for deaths of more than one million American, French and Vietnamese soldiers yet lived to the peaceful, ripe old age of 102. I only mention this from the point of view of karma, which many probably do not believe in but I find worth mentioning in the context of this man's life and culture. Giap's motivation was one of love for his country and his people and his perceived need to liberate them. It was a pure motivation that endured in a long and happy life. Klye, a Texas good'ole boy whose main mission in life seemed to be playing whack-a-mole with his sniper rifle on the barbarian heathen Iraqis, died of a violent gunshot wound from a PTSD-fatigued former American soldier. The contrasts here are vivid and huge. I wish I could say RIP General Giap but it is not in me to celebrate generals in the thrall of war. I am anti-war, no matter the cause.
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    passed away Friday, he had suffered a heart attack. Words can't express this feeling, a legend in his own time. Another artist in the soundtrack of my life has left us, fare thee well my brother.
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Glad for all the times I got to see him. RIP Clarence. Condolences to the band and his loved ones.
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whose children are missing them today, those that are gone, and those that can't be home.....Bless them all
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RIP Clarence, thanks ever so much for the music, energy, and spirit. love&peace.
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Flipping through my old DeadBase VIII, I see that Clarence played saxophone with Grateful Dead on 12/31/88, In Concert Against AIDS on 5/27/89, quite visibly on the 6/21/89 pay-per-view from Shoreline, the Earthquake Relief Benefit on 12/6/89, and then on 12/27/89. If I can find a VHS hi-fi machine that works, I'll slip in the 6/21/89 video!!
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I had a nagging feeling that the last time I saw you with Bruce in concert (11/2/09) might be the last time ever for me, but never did I really imagine this. You will be missed.
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Died on June 16th A true original, crazy man, prolific song writer and street singer. How his tuneless ranting could be so catchy and fun I have no idea, but it was. A man with mental illness entertaining, making us smile and laugh with him but not at him. His recording of a jingle for Rhino Records was their first release and the start of their transition from record store to record label. I hope Rhino are paying tribute to him; if not for him they might not be where they are today, hosting the Grateful Dead archive. Farewell Wild Man http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OnHHk9z8iGE
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SPAM....which I'd like to forget.....
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My friend Jim lost his wife, Melissa, to cancer this week: It was a long battle and he deserves a break from the frustration & anguish of medical appointments, treatments, and the final path to her death, with help from a hospice. Take a moment to wish him well. Her ashes will soon be dispersed, west of Ward, CO, in some beautiful mountain setting.
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that's a tough one. Healing thoughts and peaceful times to him.
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Jim and Melissa will be in my thoughts and prayers......
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Jim and Melissa will be in my thoughts and prayers......
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Peace to Melissa, and healing vibes to Jim.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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I had to put my best friend down tonight. She was a horse in her 30's and lived and awesome life and made mine worth living. Really gonna miss her every day.. :(
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am very sad and sorry to hear that. My deepest sympathies.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Spare a thought for my Uncle, Edward Behan, whose funeral is on Monday.A sudden heart attack, no warning, leaving behind a wonderful family with young grandchildren who have yet to comprehend. A real good egg; jolly, with a smile that could guide you safely home. It was Jerry's solo in Estimated Prophet from 5/10/1978 that comforted me when my father died, and no doubt will show the path for my Uncle's soul to the next realm. Campai, Uncle, Campai!
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for your uncle, his family, and for you jonapi. Lost my dad very suddenly in December, so truly know how it feels! R.I.P. ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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RIP for your uncle, and healing vibes for you and your family.
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Thank you so much, TigerLilly and gratefaldean. Truly appreciated. A good day all told; his wife, children and their wives strong. A wonderful eulogy, his sons carrying the coffin into the church. All of them linking hands in the beautiful spirit of unity. A real nice family, you know? Nice and tight. Just damn good people. Great to catch up with my Uncles, Aunts and cousins; been far too long since we were all together. Apparently, the inquest was indeed a sudden heart attack; didn't smoke, didn't drink, ate healthily. No warning, no signs. End of another era. But he lives through his wife, great sons and his effervescent grandchildren Let us all burn brightly everyone. Time is indeed shorter than we ever care to realise. While we are here, let us appreciate, understand and study the many levels of existence that await us, seen and unseen. Thank you both once again.
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You have my deepest sympathies on the death of your uncle. May the peace which comes from the memories of love shared, comfort you now and in the days ahead.
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Totmom Casey Anthony just got a free pass with a Not Guilty verdict in Orlando, FL. Her daughter, Caylee, was murdered 3 years ago. Stunning verdict, to say the least. No confessions and no definitive evidence: just a smelly car trunk, a bag of 6 month old bones, and a mom that lied a lot while partying and not contacting police for a month after Caylee vanished. Wonder what will happen to her now, as her home life with the folks might be just a little bit estranged. Perhaps a lucrative book deal will give her a jumpstart, although the taxpayers in Florida will take the hit on Casey's defense legal bill.
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I'm always up for sending some healing vibes to those in need of some. I hope you're doing well,my friend. Yes, I am a bit of a rookie on here but I'm loving it so far! The people on here are really chill and its fun to see all the conversations that go on. I'm still trying to get the hang of it! And its ok to ramble, I think that's where the best thoughts come from :) Looking forward to talking more with you and likewise, if you need anything.. shoot me a message. Peace
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Hey, don't speak to mountainjam28 like that, johnman........... he he.
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spammer sent to the bit bucket where they will not be remembered.
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It was to the spammer whom dear marye sent to spamhell, where all good (huh?) spammers go. Golly.....I'm not a hassshoe....jeeebers....yek ek ek ek ek ek ek....(popeye laff)..rarrarrf!!! wagwagwag
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I wanna take her to a show...Mom, ya shouldn't have left so young. Ya didn't meetcher grandson, even....if you were still here, I know my family would not have imploded (or deploded, or hexplowdid, or.....or.... whatever).....Dang it, Mom......just plain MISS you.....aLOT.
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Yes it was johnman, don't lie!!!!!! Ha ha!!! I know what you mean about missing a parent; i lost my Dad to cancer in 2004. I was at work when i got the phone call. Managed to see him that morning too and told him a joke. Was hallucinating through a Dick's Picks at the time; worked out that the moment he died was just as "Looks Like Rain" started. It sure did Dad, it sure did... But, they've only left the physical plane; sometimes no consolation when you wake up at 2.00am hurting, but they ARE all around us. We just have to readjust our vision; it's time for the peripheral to become our main means of focus; the sidereal our ability to see. Still wish he was here though.....
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It was a tumor that got my mom...they tried to cut it out, but that just woke it up, and made it grow. I went home on emergency leave for the surgery, missing a Garcia show onboard the carrier I was assigned to, but it was weeks later that we lost her. I never did get to say goodbye, though I know she's watchin' out for me. It's been almost 25 years and it still hurts... I expect it always will.....
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((HUGS)) Johnman! And I get impatient with myself for still hurting so for my Dad after 7 months********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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so sorry, both of you.
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Spare a thought for many people today - Including the families with small children that died in a cruiser accident on the River Volga in Russia yesterday. Looks positively awful. The victims of the train crash in Fatephur, India. And the recent severe drought in East Africa. Yep, it's the poor who suffer again. We don't know how lucky we are.....
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I lost my Dad 8 years ago. While he was in hospital and after we had been told to expect the worst at any time,I had to attend a meeting 70 miles away ( a sales meeting which the company refused to release me from), I asked the guy in charge of the meeting if I could leave my mobile on vibrate and explained my circumstances, to be told all mobiles must be switched off. When the meeting ended and as I was leaving the building I switched on my phone to see 23 missed calls/messages. It turns out my boss, secretary, wife and sister had been phoning from around half an hour after the start of the meeting to say my Dad had taken a turn for the worse and the end was very near. Luckily after a frantic drive I managed to get to the hospital around 20-30 minutes before my dad passed away, so was with him at the end. However when I think of the anguish and frustration my Mother, sister and wife were put through as they frantically tried to get a hold of me I still feel very bitter that one individual caused them additional grief due to his lack of compassion. On the brighter side, I always try to take something good from what life throws at me, and I truly believe my Dad hung on until I could be with him and share his final moments which I still treasure to this day.
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Absolutely he hung on riggsjr.You are very lucky that he was surrounded by the ones who loved him in his final moments. Its a huge comfort for the soul after death. For the last images and sensations to be so full of love and compassion in those hours, minutes and seconds before the journey into another realm is so deeply powerful, so precious, that we won't fully comprehend until it's our turn, should we be so fortunate. For me to witness my Dad laughing with a throaty cough on the morning of the day he died, at a perfectly cheesy joke, when he was obviously deeply uncomfortable and wanting to pass over because the pain was too much to take was a blessing i never take lightly. Sometimes i forget, like you do when life continues and the years roll by, but then when it suddenly hits you like a lightning bolt, and they speak to you in your dreams, those tears come from the very pit of your stomach and make you realise that you were a part in something that others only dream of. We are indeed extremely lucky.
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By the way, my Dad also died 8 years ago. And it does indeed, never go away. Even though they would want it to.
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jonapi, thanks for your comments. My Dad was a great music lover and a fine instrumentalist and I still find myself hearing a tune and saying " Oh I must let my Dad hear this" or hearing a really funny story and thinking "must tell my dad that one", these are the times when it hits home most. Does anyone else do that? Like most sons and parents we had our ups and downs but I think that is what makes the relationship grow. Getting over the fall outs and the occasional differences of opinion I think makes the bond stronger.
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What does one play after exhausting oneself of Fenders and Gibsons? RIP " Steal Your Jazz "
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R.I.P. I loved your voice, and your talent.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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21 yrs since we lost brent :( blessed to of seen him. IMO the best pianist i have ever seen and i have played and seen lots. Amazing talent. (~);-)
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a dark day...
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not a fan of her music but sadness for Amy Winehouse.a funny old thing; cracking sense of humour. shame she couldn't drag herself from the hole that is Camden. tight jeans and poseurs, street garbage and cheap alcohol. users and sidewalks of grime. many artists of such a young age have tasted heroin. not many had a camera in their faces or outside their home. congratulations husband and media. troubled, surely, but you played your part. Take care on the other side, Amy.
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RIP Naoki Matsuda, former Japan football defender. Died from a heart attack at the age of 34. After a brief 15 minute training session he lay down, exclaiming he felt tired and fell into unconsciousness. The club's standby nurse applied heart massage to resuscitate him. While his heartbeat returned, he remained in critical condition in hospital for three days before passing away shortly after 1pm on Thursday afternoon.
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In memory of Jerry Garcia; another anniversary we could all do without. just seen his beaming smile on the 06/21/89 show at Shoreline and him fumble the lyrics to Touch Of Gray; that'll teach him for getting too excited! grinning away and then losing his place hee! hee! be thinking of you today for sure. http://www.livestream.com/davidaron/video?clipId=pla_8639144558126932321
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Another year goes byAnother tear in my eye
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Conrad Schnitzler.- Tangerine Dream member and krautrock/electronic pioneer. Joe Lee Wilson. - soulful jazz vocalist who worked with Archie Shepp, Sonny Rollins, Pharoah Sanders, Sunny Murray, Miles Davis and more.
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My best friend died. He had a bad heart. It finally gave out, as he has known it would, since he was a young man. He was 47 years old. Jeff was a genius. He was a jack-of-all-trades. He was also a deadhead...an extraordinary human being. The Grateful Dead family fit his gentle nature perfectly. He loved the music, the people, the natural family that grew out of the friendships he made on the 'bus'... He was able to use his skills and his brain to earn his keep and to help out people along the tour. and he loved the music...there was nothing in life that was too stressful that a Grateful Dead show couldn't cure...no matter how bad the day was, there was always a reason to get up and dance when Jerry was playing... Recently Jeff told me that he was bummed that so many people were needing help these days and he didn't have the means to help them all...he hated the politics that created the wealth divide, making things harder and harder for so many people. it weighed heavily on him. Jeff's heart finally gave out a few weeks ago when he was at Riverbend, his favorite place...his grandparent's place along the big river, where he had loved to play, as a child. He was revived enough for the ambulance to get him to the hospital, but then everything began to fail and he was kept alive on life support. He was non-responsive for a week or so.... Before they let him go, his sister brought in a Grateful Dead cd and as his family stood by him, she, holding his hands, talking to him, turned on the music. they had to smile when they looked down and saw that he was somehow, actually tapping his feet to the beat. the music truly was deep in his soul... They knew it was o.k... they let him go out, dancing... i love you Jeff!
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Sorry Sue for your loss: may the 4 winds blow him to a better place. Gr8ful Ted in KC
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Thanks Ted. I'm sure people on here knew Jeff, although not by that name. He often went by Hippie, or alot of times Rider (as he used forms of I Know You Rider for his emails and nicknames). He lived in Nashville. I'm not sure what nick he used on Dead.net. So my hope is that some of his friends here will see this and know that he is gone. He touched many lives in his short but very full life. He was a very good man. I miss him. Thanks for your kind words. sue