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Joined:Here's the place to talk about our departed loved ones -- friends, family members, tour buddies, and others we've lost along the way.
- Oroborous
Joined:James R O’Neill9/28/56 - 6/5/26
Hardly perfect, but perhaps as close to a Saint as we’ll ever know
Awesome father and son
Master builder/carpenter
Jack of many trades
Amazing musician!
BFF over 47 years. The older big brother I never had!
Roommate twice, including giving me a cheap, loving place to live during a tuff transition
Band mate
Dead Head (9/27/76 first show)
Booze Brother BITD
Always doing for others, often via personal sacrifice, etc, etc
Words cannot adequately express what a great friend and all around good guy he was.He had been Ill for awhile, so happy he’s not suffering anymore, and not a huge surprise, but it still is a big loss and will take a long time to process.
As often happens later in life, we didn’t always talk often, and as it became harder for him nearer the end, not even much texting. He seemed to really enjoy nature/wildlife photos from my daily walks I’d text him the last year or so, so when he stopped responding to those a few moths ago, I knew things were deteriorating. Just like his dog Shlitz, one of his many pets, when she stopping wanting to play ball (she could be obnoxious about it lol) we knew it was time. So he’d been on my mind a lot lately.
Unfortunately I was not able to get him on the phone last couple months, which I’ll have to live with…but I will always be grateful for all he did, especially helping me to go furthur, teaching me so much about life, music, and books, skills, etc etc.that I doubt I would have learned elsewhere!
Those who knew him and benefited from his kindness and generosity are fortunate perhaps more than we know!
We used to kid him that he should put a sign on his house “O’Neill home for wayward souls” dogs, people and especially cats, he took in so many of us over the years…An Amazing bass player! Anyone who was a DH in Syracuse late eighties probably saw him play with Homel Alaniz Band, especially at Sutters Mill. Back in Western NY in the nineties, he was the lynchpin of The Wild Knights, one of the best relatively unknown Dead Bands EVER!
Wednesday night before Thanksgiving was thee DH event in Buffalo in those daze, and there’d be a line down the street, folks waiting in clod rain and snow for someone to leave so they could get into the always over sold out Tralfamadore Club downtown.
Too many memories to even begin to tell.
So I’ll just say thanks for being my best friend ever, even after I broke your ribs being an idiot, through so many years and situations, you were always there when we needed ya.
I’ll miss you and love you more than words can tell, but relieved your suffering is over and your on to the next thing, probably unselfishly getting things ready for those you loved and cared for all these years.
May the four winds blow you safely home!I used to call him every year on his birthday. Five years ago as he was starting his illness, he told me if he could make it five more years, he’d be happy. Well my brother from another most excellent mother, you damn near made it! Good Job, as always!
Onward - Oroboros
Joined:Phil, you will be missed."See, music is infinite. There’s an infinite number of ways to do it, an infinite number of melodies that can go with a one-four-five progression, it’s absolutely infinite, no floors, no ceiling.” Phil Lesh
Box of Rain soothed my soul, Phil.
Rest in Peace.
" Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself."

a song flung up to Heaven
Bigger than Hitler, Better than Christ
The Young Ones...
Loved ones
you are the sunshine in my life
Move me brightly
remembering Jimi
sorry to hear this, badger
RIP Robin Williams
Captain my Captain
Bob Weir
RIP Robin
Raphael Ravenscroft
Raphael
Rock of ages
R.I.P.Joe Cocker, 1944-2014
Rod McKuen
Sam Andrew
A death in the family
With all Condolances and Respect
With all Condolances and Respect
Prayers
Peace
dad
Sorry to hear that
my sorrow for your loss
so sorry about your dad
uncle Sam
thanks everyone
u
BB King
the thrill is gone...
Lucille has gone silent
RILEY KING
Ornette
I miss your face
Again sorry
Bill Graham
@Bill Graham
Take a load off Family!
Gina
The woman who said "Anthony " in the price spaghetti commercial
PIGPEN
Johnny Winter
And It's Goodnight From Me...
...And It's Goodnight From Him
...Goodnight!
the dust
Wow man. Truly sad.
From Ben Haggard..